@Laura Hoefer seems like your situation is not as bad as ours in terms of exposure. We didn't know about the windows and my kid's bed was right by them. He got exposed a lot with all the opening and closing. Plus the age doesn't help - he still puts everything in his mouth. If you decide to strip them yourself, I would advise to take a class on lead safety. That being said seems like it's a very complicated process and it might make the situation worse. There are some sealing paints for lead, but you'll still have to scrape the peeling paint off, which is dangerous. I'm going to strip only the 1st floor windows as it gets warmer (they are 8 ft tall so super expensive to replace), but we decided to replace the rest. Restoring is even more expensive if a professional is hired. Have you tried using professional lead cleaning products for lead to mop the floors? Maybe this will help reduce the exposure for your kids. It's all so scary. I'm scared that my kid will be permanently brain-damaged due to all of this :(

so, lead. it is toxic and we all know it is toxic and has long-term effects. there is no arguing about that. the most typical pathway is ingestion. generally, i am relatively unconcerned about adults living in a house with lead paint. adults don't eat off the floor or chew windowsills. they do, perhaps, pick up some object off the floor and then eat without washing their hands first. also, if there is a garden close to your house, where chips would fall in it. but, adults are big and developed and this amount of exposure typically isn't such a big deal. Science has shown us that low-levels of lead exposure in pregnant women that wouldn't be a big deal otherwise can cause some neurological defects. Nothing obvious like a third arm, but something less obvious like a learning problem later in life. Or maybe the IQ is 125 instead of 130. But, as adults, if we are aware of a potential risk we can avoid that risk. A pregnant woman living in a house with lead paint chips or lead paint on contact surfaces (door jambs, etc) should wash her hands frequently, particularly before eating. Vacuum more frequently than usual and frequently vacuum around window sills and doors. If you exercise some caution, I don't see any reason to replace the windows and trim because you have a pregnant person in the house. But by the time that baby becomes mobile, you do want to make sure that the lead issue has been taken care of. How you do this is up to you. You can have the windows replaced by a reputable contractor that follows lead-safe practices (this basically means they use a bunch of plastic sheeting) or you can start with the worst offenders and fix them yourself. If you do this, you want to make sure your work area is isolated and that you aren't making things worse by tracking paint chips and lead dust around. I'm really not going to get into how to do the work yourself, but focus on the doors and windows you use the most.

For those reading this post and in the same situation (it's been 3 years now since the original post I see), there are some options. I believe Ikea has lead free fixtures like a shower head. Ikea may be a good place to check for other things too, as they are transparent with the materials in their products and will post the Prop65 warning if anything contains more than the stringent .5 microns/day exposure level to lead right on the description online. Though not completely lead free, many faucet companies commit to .25% lead content in their fixtures and faucets. I think Moen and Pfister comply with this. They may even have lead free options now. You can see in the descriptions of the products or contact the companies directly. Stainless steel is a good choice (solid, not coated) for cabinet and closet knobs. Door knobs I've had a harder time with, but you could look for solid stainless steel for those too I imagine. We actually moved out of our older home that had lead paint. Encapsulation is a good option but temporary. Especially in friction areas, like built-ins, doors, door ways, and windows, you need to really watch for chipping or wear on the encapsulation layer and get it redone every few years. We opted just to move.

Thanks for the additional input everyone! Right now we have put Zinssier Gardz over the old paint (there is no peeling, it is quite thin paint actually). The Gardz is made to create a good surface for the new plaster to adhere too. I've been in and Hepa vacuumed and cleaned all the surfaces with a lead specific cleaner and removed all the plastic we had in there. We'll be covering with a new coat of plastic and tape soon and start the skim coating. The goal is to do 2-3 very thin coats using a thinned joint compound and a magic trowel. Trying to get it as smooth as possible to keep sanding to a minimum. It will just have to be a very careful and selective sanding to get ridges. The wall isn't going to be totally flat no matter what we do anyway, it's old plaster after all. I have been wondering if the kind of primer we use over the skim coat matters? Would an oil based primer be better for any reason? Another coat of the Gardz to help harden then a white primer? This definitely hasn't been fun and we'll have some hard choices going forward with the rest of the house which is all covered in wallpaper. It might just be new wallpaper for us for now. Possibly paint over it. I did that in my daughters room because her room is wallpaper over paneling so it was a temporary fix until we can drywall but it worked well. However the older parts of the house downstairs have many, many layers of wallpaper so I'm less inclined to think painting over them would work well. All of our woodwork is stained (thought the stain could very well have lead too, we haven't tested because we haven't messed with them) and luckily the windows themselves were replaced with vinyl windows so we're not dealing with painted window seals.