Kitchen help: what would you do?
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Comments (17)This is a response to the post by lee676 Excuse Me!? You sound like a cheating husband to me. This IS the WHOLE story. At first, I wasn't snooping. But once I saw that he was having conversations with one of my friends, OF COURSE I AM GOING TO LOOK FURTHER INTO IT!!! I bought him the computer! Then fixed it up for him!! HE ALSO has access to my computer and information as well!!! I wouldn't blame him if he wanted to look into my archives!!! If I'm not doing anything wrong, then who cares!!! It should have been the same for him!! I TRUSTED him!!! With all of my heart!! Oh and by the way, if you have the hard drive, you have the information!! I had two different people telling me that they can extract the information that I need off of that Hard Drive!!! You need to think about what you say before you say it!! ( * Posted by lee676 (My Page) on Sun, Jun 4, 06 at 6:17 So let's see, you snooped on your husband's computer ("without even thinking"), and found a short letter he wrote to an ex-friend of yours, whom you don't like in part because of her overactive sex life and in part because she doesn't look pretty enough (why else would "not being the prettiest thing in this world" be relevant?). You say you "totally trusted him", yet you continued to snoop in his sent email box even after "accidently" opening the first message. Then you downloaded a program that would hack into his Yahoo archives. If there is lack of trust in your marriage, I'd have to say it goes both ways. So your hubby wrote a letter to someone you once thought enough of to be friends with. So he finds her good-looking. Are you so insecure in your relationship that you can't stand the thought that he might find other women attractive? I don't think you've told the whole story here, but I can't blame him for being upset at what you did. I certainly would be too if I found my wife installing software on my computer for surreptiously reading my private correspondence, even if I was completely innocent. (I don't understand what the point of trashing the computer but saving the hard drive is, though.) That said, this isn't about you being lazy in bed or anywhere else. This is about a breakdown in trust, and lack of responsive listening. Something had to have led up to this....See Moreplease help - what would you do with this space
Comments (5)Just some general guidelines to start with: - Keep the prep and cooking area protected from foot traffic. So in this space, that seems to be the top right corner. It could also be the naturally-sheltered area in the lower room, though that puts a lot more foot traffice through that lower room to reach whatever is beyond in the upper section. - Keep the refrigerator easy for others to access without getting in the cook's way. So to me, that would be either the bottom left of the top section, or in the lower room. - If there's an eating area, it should be pleasant and cozy. So the sheltered area by the window in the lower room seems well-suited for that. The upper room could also work, though you'd have a lot more people walking through the cooking area to get there. - In general, people don't want to be able to see into a bathroom while cooking or eating, so I'd consider that carefully when placing the bathroom door and eating areas. My initial instinct would be to have the range opposite the window in the upper section, with a large prep sink either below the window in the top wall (if there's a great view) or on a small peninsula dividing the upper section from the lower section. That small peninsula would direct foot traffic to the left side of the upper room, protecting the cooking area. The fridge and pantry storage could then go in the lower left corner of the upper segment, with a great-looking clean-up sink, DW and attractive glass-door uppers opposite the dining area. But that's just a first impression. What are your friend's priorities?...See MoreHelp! Advice on what would you do with this kitchen?
Comments (10)Well, there are two ways to go about this. One is what you have already done, which is to say this is what I want, what is going to cost. The other way is to say, Ok, this is what I have to work with, how much can I get done with it? Unfortunately, a strict budget lends itself better to the latter than the former. One way you can save money is acting as your own GC. First, I would open up those two rooms and put new flooring throughout to unify the spaces. See how much money you will have left once the rooms are opened up, and go from there. When doing a kitchen on a budget, and I have done basically what you are talking about with less money, I found it worked best to set a priority list of what NEEDED to be done first. Since opening the rooms requires new flooring to tie the spaces together, start there. It will also make the biggest difference in how you feel about the space. Then decide if your cabinets are in worse shape or the appliances. Can you save any appliances? Just saving a refrig., which is what I did, will save you 1500.00-2500.00+. Make a list of which appliances you really NEED to replace right from the beginning and the minimum you would settle for in those appliances. You might be able to upgrade later if you save money elsewhere or find good sales, etc. But start assuming you won't. If you won't settle for less than a miele DW or a thermadore range you are in trouble on that budget. Look at GE, Kitchenaide and Kenmore, determine what features you REALLY want and get an idea of what they would cost. Then see what you have left for cabinets, pumbing, electrial as well as organizational goodies and cosmetics. If you can't spend much on plumbing and electrical, plan to keep the sink where it is, also the stove if you have a gas range. You have more leeway moving the stove for less expense if the stove is electric. Make sure you have planned for adequate lighting. UC lighting can be added later although it is easier and less expensive to do it before new cabinets go up. If you want recessed ceiling lights you really should plan for that expense up front and do it first. If budget dictated it you could always add plug in UC lights that you attach to the cabinets yourself. Then look at cabinets and layout with reasonably priced lines. Try Ikea for the best budget friendly cabinets. Then find out what a carpenter will charge to install them if you can't. Make it clear you are only going to do what you decide you can afford in the budget and want seperate prices for just the wall work and just the cabinet work. That way, he is not figuring in a large amt of money to GC all the rest. It takes a lot more planning and work on your part to do it for almost half the cost, but if you really want to you CAN do it. For me, it WAS a load bearing wall I wanted to open up and my estimate involved installing an I beam to carry the weight because of that. I decided to put in a 6' wide opeining instead of removing the wall completely because that would have meant messing with a lot more electrical and opening the ceiling to rewire the ceiling fan/light, etc. With the I beam, doing that cost me about 3000.00. Yours certainly should not be more, and may be less because it is mostly demo and cosmetic work afterwards, but watch out for electrical issues and consider scaling down your plans if that would increase costs greatly. For floors, I wanted hardwood but couldn't afford to have it completely installed, so I did the install myself, and saved a couple thousand. Whatever you want, look in the phone book for flooring contractors and start getting estimates yourself, rather than letting another contracter or kitchen design place do it, because they need to increase the price to also make a profit and account for their time to arrange and oversee it. Get recommendations from friends and family who have had wood floors, tile work or whatever done and were happy with it. Any place that sells cabinets should be able to help you with a layout, measure for the cabinets, etc. Then post the layout and plans here and you will get a lot of great ideas, critiques and help for free to fine tune your plan before committing yourself to it. Sue...See MorePlease help - What would YOU do in this space?
Comments (10)Sorry I've taken so long to get back here. Thanks for your responses! There's so much good info that I want to respond to, but it's taking me a while to sort it all out. First, I should address one big concern. If we do make the eating area our only dining space, we still have the living room up front that could become a dining room if we ever felt we needed it for us or resale. I am concerned about the eating area being narrow, and if we go that direction, I'm pulling the peninsula in by several inches to gain at least a little more room. rhome - you're correct, we do have an island now, but it's kind of small to me (2.5 x 3.5). I don't know if we can make it much wider, so if we made it longer, would it seem ... spindly? Anyone know how much space I should have around an island? One of my annoyances with my current kitchen is being unable to open the cabinets opposite the dishwasher while the dishwasher is open. I guess, with the new storage I'll be adding, I could try to store things there that don't tend to go through the dishwasher. :) lavender_lass - I appreciate your worries, but I didn't find your first response negative; you brought up valid points that do need to be thought about, and we have. Also, I love that you woke up thinking about my kitchen! I wake up around 3 a.m. every night/morning with thoughts about the kitchen circling relentlessly through my brain. That's a new thing for me, and I am not loving it. The dining room wall isn't load-bearing, and doesn't contain any ductwork, or anything else that can't be moved (The benefit of an unfinished basement), so that can definitely be moved. The reason we can't change the windows in the eating area is because we somewhat recently put money into replacement windows there, and that means the foot, it is down, on reworking that area. But the dining room has the old windows. I'm glad most don't think the pantry is a crazy idea. I like that I'll be able to bring some things up from the basement (and then maybe we'll finish that space if we ever get through the kitchen.) More thoughts to come, and I'll take a stab at drawing up an island layout....See MoreRelated Professionals
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