I remember another discussion about your DIL over on Discussions...something about doesn't everybody like potato salad? Maybe, my memory is faulty? You noted above, "I finally got home around 8, and discovered they'd had popcorn for supper. That's okay for adults, but it's not much supper for a child. I immediately got out the left overs and heated some up for Chris, but his appetite had been ruined by the popcorn and he barely touched his supper. So, I know now that if I'm not home to feed this poor child, he's going to starve. I guess it's one of those things that they've been doing all his life, but now that it's in my face, I don't know how to handle it. I'll just feed him as best I can while they are here, and hope DIL learns something, but I doubt it." Sally, I don't think you should assume Chris has popcorn most dinners of his life. I know your DDIL has different eating habits with likes & dislikes very different from your own; but that doesn't mean Chris is malnourished. Maybe, try rotating schedules where she cooks one week & you the next? That way, you have more free time to spend playing with Chris & both families would have an opportunity to eat familiar meals. I know DDIL has tastes very different from yours but different doesn't always translate to bad or unhealthy. I just don't want to see your relationship strained beyond repair over what's for dinner. I see that as a useless & unnecessary power struggle. I'm glad though that you're having this opportunity to spend time with Chris. Enjoy the moments. Try to remember, your DS loves this woman & she's the mother of your DGS. Please don't put your DS in the position of having to defend either one of you over popcorn for dinner. He has enough love for you both but; if pushed everybody will lose including Chris. Maybe, now is also a good time to reach out to DDIL, get to know her along with Chris, & love her as much as you do your DS. (Not necessarily saying you don't...but I do detect a bit of "her versus us" in your words.) For instance, would you feel as strongly if it was DS that had the different food likes & dislikes? If not, maybe there's other feelings involved? /tricia

You should not have mentioned her illness at all in your email to her. You say one pleasant thing and then give her a zinger. "We enjoyed having the baby" was fine, but then you say "sorry about the circumstances". Don't be ashamed(imply there is shame),pray she gets better, etc. Not nice things to say to a women who has PPD. Don't write any more emails to your son or dil. She isn't thinking clearly right now. You aren't helping the matter with the emails. Talk to your son either face to face or on the phone. Politely ask your son if your dil is receiving help for her PPD and let it go at that. Thank him for the SIDS info. I don't think she was rude to you at all. She is suffering from a very real illness. As the other poster said...it is Not about you. Don't try and make it so. NancyLouise

Also ask the lawyer about the house. Do you have any proof--reciepts and such that show you did put money into the house. Can you go to the builder and get some? Do you have bank records that show how much money you had and when it was taken out? Do you have the papers the lawyer gave you that you signed. If you don't have money to hire a lawyer look into legal aid. Do not feel bad that you are doing this to your daughter. I know it kills a mother, but you have to be strong for the boy. In order to pursue this and not hurt the boy, you have to be as sneaky as she is--let on to her that you don't want to be responsible for the boy. Make sure it is only to her and there are no witnesses. Do notunder any circumstance say anything like that on the phone she could be taping it. If you can ever get the boy alone tell him this has nothing to do with him and you will always love him. Good luck

You explained it better Rita. You do have to sign up, but it's free. Nathan loves to fish, can you tell? He always puts them back after he catches them. He is also a fantastic wrestler. He made the varisty team as a Freshman this past year. Like his mom says, "He our fighter." He also played soccer, and is pretty good at that too. He just loves sports. (I also check out another Care Page on LonnieBubba. He's a young 42 or 43 year old guy from my home town, who was T-boned at an intersection, by a 17 yr. old kid who ran the stop sign. It rolled his pick-up 3 or 4 times, and he was life flighted to the University Hospital in Omaha, and is fighting his way back to walk again. He wasn't expected to live. But he has really been fighting a good battle to recover his mobility.) Leslie