Dont know what to do...
stacydkas
7 years ago
So whatever this thing is, I think its out of control. I was given a "start" off the original about 4 in tall and in no time I have this thing. Its almost 2 1/2 - 3 ft tall and galls over all the time. I put it outside spring/summer and bring in late fall and winter. The little leaves fall of in the winter but do come back. When an "arm" falls off or breaks off I stick it in the dirt.
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Rhamel (aka teengardener1888)
7 years agostacydkas
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Comments (6)Mk, good stuff. Barring knowing what kind of deciduous tree this is, the following will likely help. Hopefully someone more experienced will pipe up. It looks to me (after googling some) to be European Hornbeam (Carpinus Betulus).Here's a link to get you started: http://www.bonsai4me.com/SpeciesGuide/Carpinus.html Google care for this & I'm sure you'll get the information you require to keep it in good health. My interpretation of the care instructions (which I admit is sparse) is that when it says keep out of direct sun, it means shade if outside & bright room if inside. You'll have to do your best to interpret care information specific to this tree found on the internet. Generally, tropicals summer outside & winter inside, while deciduous trees are summered outside & then kept in a sheltered spot outside in the winter. First order of business is to confirm the ID of this tree, google it's culture and make changes accordingly 0_- Antoinette Here is a link that might be useful: first time using Al's gritty mix...See More17 yrs. and still dont know what to do with this hill/deck
Comments (2)Posters on the forum don't generally do designs for you, but can offer some suggestions if you provide enough information about what your goal is. It doesn't sound as if you need any more maintenance work, so I wouldn't suggest a pond. Your pictures are a bit small, could you post just one that is bigger and sums up the problem and add a link (in the box where it says optional link url, plus you have to give it a name, anything will do). Plantings might help with erosion by stabilizing the soil, but you don't say what you really want for this area. Also, read some other people's threads on erosion, hillsides, slopes, design help, to get an idea of what's involved, and do a bit of thinking and/or research on your own as well. You can't really expect to learn enough from a few replies to a form post to do the project yourself without doing some additional learning about correct planting techniques, soils, what's available at your local nurseries, etc....See MoreDont know what to do!
Comments (12)She told him in this letter that the only good Christmas was the couple years between the death of his last wife and me. That there was no thought put into the gift giving for his children and she was tied of being second fiddle to other people. The year she is referring to is the year that he had the insurance money from his deceased wife and Christmas was HUGE for the entire family. (before I knew them) But what she fails to remember that last year when she was starting her masters degree (already married too) she came to us to borrow money for her books. We gave her 200.00 without even worrying about it. And also that year her brother needed help and we gave him 300.00 +. Neither one of them ever said I will pay you back. And I might add she makes in 2 weeks what we make in a month. We struggle with these grandkids with minimual help from the state in assistance to raise them. If she keeps them for us for any amount of time she feels that we should give her money to entertain them because we get 800.00 from the state a month for 2 kids. Who can feed, cloth and raise 2 preteens on 800.00 a month. I am not worrying myself with her. I just can not believe that she would do such a thing. It is my husbands job to talk to her since the letter came to him. But if it effects him it effects me. Thanks for all the responses...See MoreI honestly dont know what to do...LONG
Comments (9)First, let me say, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your first spouse. Second, please understand that you need to take care of yourself and your children first. I agree with the need to get out if you know that he is passive- aggressive and has control issues. I can speak from experience when I say, "get ready to get out and do it all at once". If you give him an inch it will only change for a little while, just long enough to reel you in and then it will go back and build even more. If I am reading this correctly, you have no children together. It is time to go. Find a safe place to be and don't be afraid to ask for help. It is common, not right or fair, but common for parents to favor their birth children. Read my post(this might be a long one). Just acknowledging that we all have issues. It is hard to understand when you have good kids why the other parent finds it so hard to deal with them being so attached to you. It is only natural for your kids to be attached to you, considering the death of your spouse. You are still trying to find a way to deal with it, but you know there is none. I was in your shoes in my first marriage. It doesn't get better- it will get worse. I hate to put it so harshly, but if you can get out sooner than later, you will minimize the damage to your children's emotions. Right now, they can't or won't verbalize it, but they can't understand why you are living this way. I can tell you none of us are perfect or have the right to tell anyone how to live, or not live, as the case may be, but you know in your heart and gut what is right for you and your children. Please, take care, and when you make your choice- act on it swiftly to see yourself outside of his realm of influence so you don't end up hurting even worse....See Morestacydkas
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