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aunt's outfit for the wedding

10 years ago

this weekend we are going to our nephew's wedding, it will be at 3 pm in northern alabama (a 16 hour drive from here) i recently lost 40 plus pounds and most of my clothes are pretty big, however i discovered last week that the outfit i wore to my daughter's wedding 15 years ago now fits me again and is still stylish enough to wear so i took it to the cleaners and then called a sil and mentioned that i was planning to wear that she happened to remember that the outfit is purple and she thanks that is on of the wedding colors should i drop this outfit and go shopping for something else to wear, wear it and play ignorant

thank you for your opinions

by the way i've never spoken to the bride and haven't seen the groom in 5 or 6 years...

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nancylouise5me
10 years ago
If the dress is 15 years old, I think you can treat yourself and buy something new. The purple color is fine. I'm sure the Bride and Groom aren't that picky as to dictate what colors their guests can wear. But 15 years is pretty old for a dress. Time for something new.
eld6161
10 years ago
I'm not so sure. If it has classic lines and you think it can still appear current, I see nothing wrong with wearing it.

Also, the chances of your purple being the same color purple as the bridal is probably slim.

I also agree with Nancy. Getting dressed up for an occasion is fun. Congratulations on your weight loss! If you don't mind shopping, getting a new dress can be fun.
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Why are you looking for an outfit rather than your sister? Since it seems she doesn't have to match anyone else, wouldn't everyone be happier if you just said to her, "This is what I'm wearing; could you find something nice in the same ball-park formality level-wise? I kind of had this sort of thing in mind (show Nordstrom's outfit)" and let her pick out her own clothes? Personally in your sister's place I'd be slightly put off if someone else, even my sister, handed me an outfit and said, "Here, wear this," which is effectively what you would be saying. Second question, why black? Is is because you have a theme going which makes black the colour to choose, or because you think it is flattering to the larger figure? As a generously proportioned woman myself I can tell you that black makes some women look like hags, and picking a colour that goes with your skin and hair type is a better plan. Design is more of an issue than colour as far as figure flattering goes. I do like the outfit you found; pity you can't find the top as well. But I personally think your sister would be happier if you let her find something that looks good on *her*. It's very hard to successfully buy clothes for other people.
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sushipup1
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The wedding is this weekend, and shopping at last minute is terribly stressful. Wear your dress that fits and looks good, and have a great time. Doubtful that the 'purple' will match at all. Just enjoy yourself.
gellchom
10 years ago
last modified: 10 years ago
I agree with the others. It's perfectly fine to wear this dress. Just decide the same as if it weren't purple or you didn't know anything about the wedding. Do you love it and want to wear it? Or would you rather get something new?

There's always at least one person wearing the same color as the attendants (unless I guess they are wearing white, and sometimes even then!), and it doesn't make the slightest difference. As long as you don't look like you are going to (a) your own wedding, (b) a funeral, (c) the gym, or (d) somewhere to pick up sailors, you're fine!

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