Play therapist? I think you need a real one. Talk to the pediatrician and find serious help. (Yes, I understand "play therapy"). What you did is not enough. There seem to be developmental issues as well. Has she been assessed for autism spectrum issues? Is there a chance that she was sexually molested?

I have asked 2 seperate doctors and both refered me to play therapists. I have asked about developmental delays and they tell me she's on track. As far as her counting and abc's she does good. But emotionally and cognitively she acts like she's 2. When her mom lost custody of her she was staying with some of her biomoms friends and they apparently did do something. She didn't say anything about it until a year later. After I tried talking to her about private parts and not to be showing them to people and that other people shouldn't see or touch her there. But then they did and interview with her at a "kids house" where she got cookies, juice, and toys for telling her story. So then she started making up other stories of abuse so she could go back. (Like impossible stories that they put a knife in her vagina, and when she was physically examined she does not scars and everything was fully intact) But she hasn't talked about it again in therapy, she just plays with toys. I feel like that is another reason I am so frustrated is no medical professionals will listen to me. I have asked about reactive attachment disorder and they just say well she went through a tough time. I look like such a bad person when all I want is for her to be happy and healthy for herself and the rest of the family. Things were so smooth before and now there is a constant stress, she's very anxious and unenjoyable to be around.

I feel like I am such a loss on where to go for help. The only success I had was getting her into occupational therapy for a year. Which helped a lot with her sensory issues. He tries to be patient, give her extra attention. He does get embarrassed by her behavior in public or around family and friends. He has gone to her therapy appointments. He works a lot so he can't always be there. he came from a step parent family and gets frustrated that I don't have a bond with her the way I do my kids. I ended up in therapy myself with trying to manage my own emotions. And my therapist said it wasn't unnormal for me not to have a bond with her. But all 3 therapist have said that she has an attachment to me, so I believe that's a good sign. I just don't know where else to find help for her at.

My advice would be to look for child psychologists. Not play psychologists (not that I am taking away from them at all). It is my opinion that this child needs strong intervention quickly to avoid her becoming a very damaged adult. She needs help ... and I believe that she is crying out for it.

I can completely understand your frustration. The fact that your husband works long hours is understood, as well, but the health of his child should be, and deserves to be, priority one.

Thanks everyone we will defiantly look into a child psychologist. I did everything I could to keep her out of the CPS system when her mother lost it. I have been spending all my time,energy, and our money to help her. It has been number one, I guess that's what's hard is she has been our number one priority for the last 4 years and we have 2 other children who need attention and other things as well. But because her behaviors disrupt the whole family, her needs are tended to first.

Don't know where you live, but if you are near a large teaching hospital, there is a good chance it has a child and adolescent psychiatry department that can evaluate her and start the appropriate treatment.

Several of these behaviors (speech delay, immature behavior, comprehension) can be a result of hearing loss. Find the best otolaryngologist you can find and schedule a full audiology exam for her.

Don't talk yourself out of the possibility by saying, "but she can hear when I do "x". Hearing loss is tricky. Our oldest could hear us whispering in his ear, but couldn't hear us when we spoke in normal tones.