No wonder you are confused. My head was spinning after reading all of the opinions! I was following the original post, but this is my first look at your follow-up. I agree with the others about finding another shade for first lamp if you decide to use it. The present shade is too short and it is the wrong style. My suggestion would be to take the lamp into a lighting store that sells shades. There you will have some expert advice as well as the option to "try on" various shades, much in the same way that you would try on clothes to determine the most flattering fit and combination. Think of the gas you will save! These are some guidelines for shades that I have found useful: 1. Match the base  think size, shape, style, color. Your goal is to match the mood of the base. 2. Compliment the base  the shade should make the base look better without competing with for attention (like that patterned shade on the metal lamp) 3. Hide the switch  the shade should just barely cover the switch (usually the height of harp + ½ inch). Try different sized harps, or add a shade riser to fine-tune. 4. Sizing Rules of Thumb: (1) Shade height should be about ¾ the height of the base (2) Bottom of shade should be wider than widest part of the base. (3) Shade width should be approximately equal the height from bottom lamp base to the top of the lamp stem, (just below the socket cap) I like both lamps. I think either one will be beautiful, but I would not use both of them in that room. Rather than another ginger jar, it would be nice to use a different architectural form on the console. I like the console very much. I do not like the metal/glass (marble?) lamp with the patterned shade. I would look for gorgeous buffet lamps. I am thinking wooden with an antique gold finish (very simple, but elegant). These are high end lamps, but use as examples. If you want the console to appear more sophisticated, remove the dried flower wreath that is resting on the books below, and remove the wicker basket with the greens from the top of the console. Replace it with a grouping of three (the magic number) similar objects (candles, boxes, ceramics, etc.) of different height and proportion. Good luck and keep up the good work. I am amazed by your shopping energy and resourcefulness.

I went to houzz and pulled up some pics of sofa tables without lamps. Key seems to be putting stuff on the table that provides height.... [Traditional Family Room design[(https://www.houzz.com/photos/traditional-family-room-ideas-phbr1-bp~t_720~s_2107) by Other Metros Interior Designer jill Shevlin - Intrinsic Designs [Eclectic Family Room design[(https://www.houzz.com/photos/eclectic-family-room-ideas-phbr1-bp~t_720~s_2104) by Los Angeles Interior Designer Elizabeth Gordon [Contemporary Living Room design[(https://www.houzz.com/photos/contemporary-living-room-ideas-phbr1-bp~t_718~s_2103) by Other Metros Architect Marcelo Brito Design Here is one where they did both.....lamps are very different in style and scale and the tables are very different heights. [Traditional Kitchen design[(https://www.houzz.com/photos/traditional-kitchen-ideas-phbr1-bp~t_709~s_2107) by Philadelphia Design-build Echelon Custom Homes

Their residences always look like no one lives there, there's nothing personal in them. Even the White House now. I love the furnishings (that living room! Claire's bed!) but all the empty chairs along the walls, the vague artwork on the walls, very creepy. The Oval Office, too, looks like no one cares...except for the lamps, of course :) It all really contributes to the precarious "house of cards". Set design really is an art. and, can I just add, I love Claire's wardrobe.

I'm going with chijim but am going to be even more of an outlier - I like bedside lamps AND bedside tables to NOT match. Looks way more interesting to me. Find a lamp that you think looks good in the space overall, and that plays well with the rest of the room, including your existing lamp. Totally different (IMO) is just fine.