If it was me, I would split it between my sister and I.

Treat my mother and the children.

ML

Neither myself nor my sister can afford to split the cost 50/50 between us. I should also add that we have been doing this for the past 3 summers & it has always been spilt between the adults (4 ways). My Granddaughter has always slept on the floor with an air mattress, this year we decided on a bigger suite, with 3 Queen beds (vs 2) so it cost just slightly more. This is why I am asking....

I hadn't seen the above post before I wrote my original reply. Having read the additional info, I would definitely say 5.

5 ways then. Simply because it's not fair for your mother to pay part of your children's stay.

Have fun!

I think it should be split into thirds for the 3 beds. If someone has their own bed, they pay for 1/3. If two people share a bed, they pay for 1/6 each. If someone sleeps on the floor, they don't pay. I think this is fair since sharing a bed or sleeping on the floor can be inconvenient compared to having your own bed.

Adults are making these decisions and paying the cost, not the child. Let the adults split the cost of the room. Is this a hardship on anyone? Might you choose a less expensive hotel or destination?

Since everyone gets a bed, I'd say split it five ways. If the child were in the floor, then I'd say four ways.

Since the cost matters, I'd ask your mother, sister, and daughter how they think it should be split.

PS: I'm the sister that would pay for the room for everyone. :)

5 ways. Why shouldn't your daughter pay for her daughter?

It should be split 4 ways among the adults. Surely no one should resent pitching in a bit more for the child, especially since it's family. No one would expect a child to pay which is what would be implied split 5 ways. Perhaps though you or your daughter should add extra for the child when eating out.

Is the cost that much more for the third bed? Will it be a hardship for your daughter?

Is there a hotel policy that children under a certain age stay free? If so adhere to this and split between the adults. Otherwise it should be discussed since you are all close family members and the decision made between all of you, not by any one person. Communication is so important, just talk about it together.

I agree about talking it through. The best part is that you have four generations together.

Another issue, however, is setting up a precedent for the future. The nine-year-old can still be considered a little kid, but she's going to be a tween soon, and then a young lady. She could continue to sleep on the floor until she was grown and married, but is that what you'd want for her? Since you have the bigger suite this year, this is the time to figure it out.

My own opinion is looking into the future, count her as a full person, so 5, but if your daughter's budget is too tight, and because I'm sure your daughter is everyone else's precious, and your granddaughter is double so, perhaps everyone else will chip in. Maybe not for the hotel, to keep the accounting clean, but pick up an extra meal or "you pay for Dolly's hotel, but I'll provide her spending money" or something like that.

I would not charge for the child. The larger suite will benefit others as well. The child could care lessi if she is on the floor or not. The inflatable bed is more of an inconvenience for theADULTS!

I wouldn't charge for the child. If finances are really hard and it's an issue, maybe you can size down again and have the child continue to sleep on the air mattress.

I'd give the mom a break and split it 4-ways. Technically, she should be paying for her and her child, but if you can afford it, I'd cut her a break.

It's good karma.

I agree with those who say split the cost among the adults.

Many hotels have a policy of kids stay free until the age of 18. It is not that difficult to find one. Others are happy to provide a roll a way bed at either no charge or a small additional charge.

About the inflatable bed. If the hotel is giving out a room for four and if someone comes in with an inflatable bed or puts an extra guest on the floor without the hotel's knowledge that is theft of service. It's also against fire regulations.

It should have been discussed ahead of time before getting a hotel room for five people, 3 adults and two kids. What are the ages of kids to go free or halfprice?

Same with everyone should be paying for their own meals for themselves and kids and maybe you can include your mother depending on how finanically set she is. Split meals can go along ways too with costs.

Eat out of the hotel and ask around if possible or check restaurants that won't cost huge prices like hotel will.

one thing is if you all continue in doing things like that, you will have to talk it out now or someone will over pay and others aren't much or nothing at all.

And kids won't get younger either.

kathy

I agree with those who say to see what the hotel policies are, and discuss the situation with the hotel. There may be family or other discounts that might help. Hotels are in the business of making money, but part of that is to make stays in their hotel attractive enough so that people return.

Kathy, as stated in the original post, there are four adults and one 9 year-old.

Yes, as stated in the original post, there are four adults and one 9-year-old child. Stated in the OP's second entry, "My Granddaughter has always slept on the floor with an air mattress, this year we decided on a bigger suite, with 3 Queen beds (vs 2) so it cost just slightly more. "

So, up until now, the adults have slept two to a bed (two queen-sized beds in the suite), and the child slept on an air mattress on the floor. This year, they have reserved a larger suite, with three queen-sized beds. Everyone, including the child, will be sleeping in a bed, and no one will be on the floor. Presumably, the child and her mother will share one bed. That leaves the OP, her sister, and their mother. Two of those three will share a bed, and the third person gets a bed of their own.

In my opinion, the person who gets the bed of their own should pay slightly more, because it's much nicer (more comfortable) to have your own queen-sized bed than it is to share a queen-sized bed with someone that you aren't going to be cuddling!

Divide by 3 (one-third for each bed), then for those who have to share a bed divide that third in half. So the one adult, who gets a bed to themself pays more.

Considering the minimal savings diving by 5 rather than by 4, I don't think it's worth it to even be discussing. The potential hard feelings could ruin an otherwise joyous get away. It would be *nice* if the daughter picked up the tab for a meal or something to equalize the costs, but it may not dawn on her. Or, the daughter may already be planning to pay 2/5 of the cost. Who knows. But unless she offers, I'd plan on splitting it 4 ways.

Sorry, didn't realize there was a fourth, thought two kids for some reason.

Agreeing with the "split it 4 ways" idea.

I think it is great that you are trying to be as fair as possible. I agree to splitting four ways. But, it would be nice it those who can afford to, step up and treat the others who might be struggling financially.(Entertainment, food etc.)