(very long) Neighbors falsely accusing me and lying to get me evicted.
akuyamo
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Nasty neighbor EVICTED!!!
Comments (8)I actually looked into the eviction process in this state. Turns out the notice he got last week was a summons. He probably didn't pay his rent on the first, so he got a notice about it within the first week of the month, then on the 12th he got the summons. His court date should be this week or next week (7-10 business days after service, depending on what day of the week the court does eviction cases). If he shows up in court he'll be given however many days to pay the rent or leave, and he'll have 10 days to appeal. If he doesn't show up in court, or doesn't pay the rent after court and doesn't appeal, then a writ of restitution will be issued and the sherriff can remove him from the property. Since his lease is up early next month, I can't imagine this taking too long. He'll either leave at the end of the lease or be removed a week or so earlier. Either way it's almost over, and I can't wait to be able to relax in my own home again. See, I'm even more nervous now than I was last fall. Last fall I thought the guy was just angry and violent. Since the summons was posted, my husband stumbled on the neighbor's onling blog....we know it's his, cuz he has a picture of him and a picture of his dog. For 2 1/2 weeks, every day, sometimes several times a day, he posted about his girlfriend. He's 33, she's 18, and he's completely obsessed with her. It reads like the diary of a 15 year old girl. He calls her several times a day, get's enraged when she doesn't answer the phone, wants to know where she's been, who she was with, one day accuses her of lying about everything and slutting around, next day he's on there pining about how he can't live without her and she's the only person he's ever loved.......it's really scary. If I were the girlfriend, I'd leave the state and change my name. So now he's more than just an angry neighbor with anger management issues, he's emotionally stunted and obsessed with an 18 year old girl. He also has his own perception of reality. He told us that the manager threatened to evict both of us last fall if we didn't work our problems out. Lie. He said all the police told him my husband had to stop with the drums, one even said he was GOING TO write us a citation.....lie. He claims that the officers who told us it was OK told him it wasn't....lie. He made it out like everyone was telling each of us whatever we wanted to hear, police included. And I believed him for a moment, he seemed so sincere. But I'm convinced now that he was either flat out lying, or he's delusional. Do you have any idea what they would do with a pet if they had to forceably remove a tenant. He's got a dog, and while we couldn't take her in (we have two cats who don't even get along with eachother, it would never work out) I'd like to know that she would be properly taken care of....See MoreVery BAD Condo Neighbors
Comments (4)Your girls are "9 and 7". I seriously doubt "our 2 girls crying at 3am because they were startled awake and couldn't go back to sleep to get up and go to school." My guess is there is more to this story than you are saying....See MoreMy Neighbors are very rude and irrespectful...are they racist??
Comments (27)Who knows? The reasons don't really matter in the end. For the past few years I've lived in a predominantly black neighborhood with SO. Our neighbors have had mixed reactions to me. Some are friendly, some are downright rude. (Mostly females) I have been told to my gave that they didn't like me because I was a "stringy haired white *itch stealing their men" Now we moved to a more rural,mostly white part outside of town,and it's no better. The people across the road from us had taken to firing their guns for no reason. Another neighbor told me when I asked about it that they were doing it because we were an interracial couple and wanted to scare us into moving away. When they did it again one day, SO solved the problem by firing HIS rifle into the targets behind our house until the clip was empty. We haven't heard anything from them since. On another occasion,we stopped by a local dollar store to get light bulbs and while waiting to check out, the man in front of us looked at us,said nothing,but reached down and rolled up his pants leg to reveal a huge tattoo on the back of his leg of a man hanging from a tree. Subtle. I think i preferred the direct approach we got in the more civilized city neighborhood. But in the end, as long as they don't cause any real trouble, or set foot on our land,who cares. The reason we moved out there was to get farther away from people anyway,and we have enough land to to just that. In your case, it seems to be causing you problems. I personally wouldn't care about the car wash thing, but if someone were leaving trash on my property,I would have a big problem with that, whether they were doing it because they were racist or simply because they are a-holes. Just remember, all racists are a holes but not all a holes are racist....See MoreMy neighbors don't like me or my dogs?
Comments (11)You asked for advice, so I am going to tell you that your responses to your neighbor have been aggressive and provocative. Your reactions to the neighbor have added to the conflict. Your goal should instead be to give neutral or calming responses. Snookums2 gave you examples of these. Nan-E-Fan gave you away of thinking of the situation that protects you from thinking that by changing your responses to this family you are "wimping out" or acting like you are weak. By keeping calm and responding to exactly what is said, you keep control of the situation. The woman says, "my husband says he saw you letting your dog pee on our lawn." You say, "I don't let my dog pee on the individual lawns, he only goes on the common area." If the neighbor does not know where the common area is, this gives them the opportunity to ask, "where is this common area?" If the neighbor, instead, insists that you do let your dog pee on her lawn, you ask her to take a picture of it. If she says that she has no camera, remind them of their cell phones or tell her to get a cheep disposable. Or offer to pay half for a disposable. This shows that you are concerned for their issue (you don't really have to be concerned, but acting like you are keeps the peace). By remaining calm, you keep the power in the relationship. If they start getting accusatory toward you, or start complaining to the townhouse management, you can calmly say, "I told them that I only use the common area and asked them to photograph the dog using their lawn as a toilet. I even offered to share the cost of a disposable camera. They never did anything to prove it was my dog, they just continue to harass me every time they see me outside." Or if you can remain calm when they harass you, then YOU can go to management and complain about their treatment of you. It takes practice to remain calm and to learn to respond only to the words people are saying to you. What you have been doing is responding to the emotion behind what the neighbor is saying and making assumptions about what she is staying. Your assumption has been, "This family has something against me and my family." By having this assumption in the background, based on your first few interactions with this family, you have been working from an assumption that you are at war because this other family has decided you are. Nothing could go right after this assumption was made. That is why I suggest that you concentrate only on the words that are said. It keeps you focused on your goal of remaining calm and responding to the situation and the concerns that the person is bringing up. It is too late for you to make this relationship start out right, but you can work on calming it down. That will give you practice for future relationships with other people. I had to do this when I found myself getting all upset talking with insurance companies and the like on the phone. After one set of phone calls when I got mad and frustrated and yelled at the person on the other end of the phone, my eyesight went all wonky. It was like looking through a kaleidoscope that was turning. I thought I was going blind! Through the little bits of clearness, I waited through my dial-up internet and slow page loads and figured out that I was having an ocular migraine. I did not need to go to the ER, but I should see an ophthalmologist soon. So I called my eye doc and they got me in the next day. What is one cause of an ocular migraine? Stress. What else does stress do? Cause high blood pressure and other heart disease, contribute toward diabetes and other diseases. Gotta lower stress!...See Moresephia_wa
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