Go for the ivory color in the granite. Bring home swatches and find one that matches well. For the backsplash, just remove all of the tile over the granite bs, clean up and paint the wall above it.

When you paint cabinets you have to use a particular kind of paint and follow a multi-step process in order to get a result that will last. You should do some research and then choose the white from the available whites in the right kind of paint. Also, there is no way for anyone to tell you remotely which white is going to work. Our perception of color really depends on the lighting, and colors don't look the same online as they do in person. The only way to find the right color is to sample. However, no matter which white you end up with, stainless steel is a good choice for new appliances.

I agree with Patricia. I don't get why everyone wants synthetic stone. Probably because everyone else wants it. The natural variation of granite looks much better to me than the synthetic look. And it typically costs less. Many granites require no maintenance. Everyone also wants white kitchens. In a few years all these white kitchens will be dated. I like dark cabinets with everything else white. Much better contrast. Dark cabinets never go out of style. White cabinets do,

So what wall paint color are you doing? Have you come to accept the "pinkness"? I myself have evolved towards loving whites which lean into the pinks, because the yellow whites were all somehow giving me this undesirable dingy greenish-gray cast.... for reasons Im not entirely sure of. Now, occasionally I might see some faint traces of pinkness in the shadows, but mostly my walls read as a nice, warm white.