Hi, I am interested in Gavin Pettit,Shores of Time and Darla Anita. I have daylilies not listed on my page and plenty of perennials

On Sunny, there are normal leaves on ?both the canes. Something happened at about the same time to affect the apical meristems of both of the canes. It didn't appear to affect the lower bud axils on either, or we'd see aberrant canes coming out in almost candelabra like growth. The odds of two canes affected by two vagrant air borne eriophyid mites at the same time are low, but not impossible. The odds of some chemical being brushed over them, a problem as well. BUT were secateurs used to cut two bloom sprays taken the same day...a maybe. Especially if the secateurs had been used on some other kinds of plants just before these were touched. The odds on mites are what bothers me the most. If that was mine, I'd be asking my husband if he had done anything near that plant. (He knows better, but it never hurts to ask specific questions.) I would already have cut those stems back to below the good looking leaves. RRv is IMO a phloem transported virus and sometimes it doesn't move fast through the sieve cells. I think that' a chemical problem which shouldn't transport fast. I would bag those cane tips in enclosed bags and carry them past the rest of your garden and they'd go to a land fill, not to a compost pile. Let us know what develops over time, please. Ann

Tootsies breeder does show dogs and has quite a few champions. I also don't like backyard breeders that have no idea what they are doing and tend to breed their pets because of course they are biased and think their animal is the best. I wanted to scream at this woman at the last bulldog event we went to. Her dog was a very poor specimen and she was looking in our group for someone to breed him with...poor thing could barely breath and he was so out of proportion. I'm sure hes a great dog but definitely not sire worthy. That was besides the point and I know you weren't suggesting I got my baby from a backyard breeder but I had to clarify that I did not just in case. In show dogs and work dogs parent lines are important....are you maybe a little sensitive as to where you got your dog from? From the defects if any in the parents you know what to expect from your pup. In bulldogs which is all i can speak to, if the mom or dad had bad hips, shoulder, eyes, nose...you can expect it in the pups. Toots is perfect (of course) she has perfect eyes, and hardly any breathing problems...we dont even hear her snore which is again unusual for a bully. Of course according to the vet her marshmallow tail is a defect(it has some fat in it so its puffy). I assume the same goes for working, sporting dogs. If the parents had a good temperament and excelled at something chances are the pups will too. On discovery channel or NGC I saw where a couple were taking the two goldens that had jumped the furthest in some competition and bred them together in hopes the pups will outshine the parents. The pups were showing very good potential. I think that if you are taking your dogs to shows and competitions you can expect almost everyone to ask where you got your dog from...its only natural. So you have two choices, either don't show your dog, or just accept it as a part of owning a purebred.

I was thinking about what I have said on this thread and why it bothers me so much, why it makes me even want to respond, since I usually don't I think it's because I was treated this way as I child and I did nothing to deserve it. I was like a lot of your stepkids - I was a good kid, I never got into any trouble, I made good grades, I was respectful of my elders and good to my siblings. In fact, I have relstionships with my SM's children (my half-siblings), but not with her or BD. I think that's because she never wanted a relationship with me in the first place, and she didn't want her DH (my BD) to either. She pretty much wanted me to "disappear," like so many of you here and other boards wish your step-children would do - just go away. Disappear. So she froze me out. Visitations eventually became non-existent. My BD blames that fact on me, my Mom, and her family. But my Mom never said a bad word about him OR SM. She always told me they loved me. But I DID witness SM scream and accuse my Mom of starving me, of sending me in ugly clothes, of not taking proper care of me. Yep, the same ol' accusatory crap that I read on here... So forgive me if I take what I read here with a grain of salt. I know there are two sides to every story, and I know from experience that sometimes (note, I said "some" times), the accusing side blows things way out of proportion and only sees what they want to see, then accuses the other party without knowing the full story. See, when my SM accused my Mom of starving me, it was because my Mom fed us healthy foods, always cooked with whole grains, we raised our own fruits and veggies, as well as our own chickens and rabbits for meat, we hunted deer for venison... I had a brother with what is now called ADHD, and instead of putting him on Ritalin, my Mom chose to change our diet and she cut out all artificial sweetners, colors, she cut out refined sugars and flours... as a kid, it was miserable! But, in the long run, it was a healthier lifestyle. But when I went to BD and SM's house, they had Pepsi, Cookie Crunch cereal, Oreos... oh. my god. Kid Food Heaven! And I ate like a little piglet! So, then my SM gets it in her head that my Mom is "starving" me. Not the truth, but she didn't even ask, she just accused and threatened that they would take me away from my Mom! So, what does that tell you? That sometimes, things are not always what they seem. Sometimes, you see what you want to see, you run with it, and you start to believe it. Then the negative feelings being to creep in and you start to see that person or people in a negative light, never even thinking there might be another side to the story. And it's hard to change that path of thought, once it's begun. All that to say, I think this bothers me so much because I've lived it as a step-child, and I see my child living it now, too. And that was not my intention. I set out on making it different for my child. I phoned up SM and introduced myself, I told her I respected her, that I knew my child cared about her, that I knew we could relate on a 'mother' level (she had a foster DD), and that I wanted things to be different for my child than they were for me, with my SM. I thought I had done a good job of helping her feel supported. But, a few weeks later, she turned right around and attacked me - literally - in a parking garage. Along with my XMIL. Attacked me and my then-BF (now DH) in front of my child. Over money. It was so bad, I filed a police report. I was scared, and I had to watch my child's face in the car window as they drove off, because it was XH's weekend. And this isn't the first time a domestic violence situation has arisen with them. I take responsibility for not being more aggressive, for letting them feel like they could bully me. I felt like a whimpering dog, being kicked in the stomach when I should have stood up to them, nose to nose, and been strong. But I didn't want to fight in front of my child. It was my choice. So, that's where I'm coming from on this. It upsets me to think that my child is experiencing the same indifference that I did. My child is so kind-hearted, such a good kid (and I'm biased I know, but parents and teachers all tell me that my kid is such a good, well-mannered, kind and polite child) that it tears me up that another person, who has such influence and authority, would treat my child with such indifference - as if my child didn't deserve to exist or deserve their kindness and love. I also want to clarify a contradiction that I may have made here: When I said that faking it 'til you make it doesn't work, then turned right around and said that sometimes you have to act out the part of changing your feelings before it comes to you, I realized that I was contradicting myself. So I thought about what makes it different. And I realized that it's the intention. When you 'fake it til you make it,' that usually means you're faking caring about them until they're gone, with no intention of ever really trying to change your feelings or learning to love them. But when your intention is to really learn to love, to change your feelings toward another person, that's the key. KWIM?