There doesn't seem to be a way to send you an email through Gardenweb. You won't get many responses because many of us don't want to put our addresses and personal information on the thread for everyone to see. If you go to my page and send me an email with your address I'll send you some seeds. Feel free to check my list to see if there's anything specific you want. I am in Nebraska zone 4/5.We have hot summers, too. I have quite a few flowers that butterflies like and I'm as addicted to saving seeds as I am to growing flowers. I'm not looking for a trade--I have more than enough seeds. Love to share with others. Heidi

Nitsua: It would be beneficial for your girlfriend to learn much more about growing tomatoes before accepting any similar gifts in the future. Sometimes, accepting a gift is a matter of needing to be diplomatic. If the OP's girlfriend is actually interested in growing tomatoes in future, I'm sure one of them can post again, at which point we can point them sources of information and offer additional advice. I would just hope that the OP's girlfriend doesn't let this turn her off of gardening, as it's not a very representative experience. But maybe she has no interest in gardening and just needed to make a gesture of trying for diplomacy's sake or because it seemed better than just throwing the plant away or just out of mild curiosity, and that's all totally normal and understandable.

It looks like what we call Bulrush, a species of Typha. They're often used for controlling sediments in runoff water before it enters creeks and rivers. They spread by seed so if your neighbour has them they'll soon be in wet areas in your place. They are invasive in wet areas so you need to make sure they're not going to become a problem later on. Once established they are difficult to get rid of.

Gardenho and Babs I'm getting seeds if I can't find the plants. In the back of my mind I thought I'd get both seeds and plants. I just thought I'd find them this year and then didn't. Cearbhaill glad that online has worked for you. I will definitely make use of your website for checking out online stores. Edenchild I have never traveled out of the country to buy plants. Other things yes but plants no. now there will be a trip in my future I wonder what my sister is doing next February :-). Perhaps going to Seattle? :-) DeannaToby thanks. Yes I am looking for baptisia Australis. It grew beautifully in my previous card in but I had to leave it behind:-(. I will definitely attempt to purchase it as local as possible when I do order plants thanks for the heads up on that! Interesting that you can't find peony itoh mazerolm where you are. Could it be they don't grow well in your zone? Or maybe it's more rare in general. I found a website about the difference between the 3 types of peonies. Now I want all three I do have the herbaceous peony. Now I want a tree peony and Itoh peony too. https://homeguides.sfgate.com/can-peonies-stand-alone-like-bush-68154.html rouge Splendide WHITE looks wonderful. I've never grown meadow rue though so don't know it's needs.Thanks again all.