Update, Spider the cat

17 years ago

I'm going to let him go today. I've arranged with the vet to be there at 2:00. After a week, the last meds have made no difference. He is having a hard time breathing since last night, and not eaten much the last 24 hours. Diahrea. He will only eat a bit of baby food meats, and seems to struggle to swallow, gags on even baby food! His 'good' eye is rolling back in his head, the swollen one has never improved, it's completely shut. He moves around my bedroom, but doesn't go anywhere else in the house. He woke me up in the middle of the night with a sort of wheezing, coughing, sneezing, gasping attack. His airway and throat definitely seem very blocked by the swelling in his face, it has just taken over. He has done it a few times since then, too. I have been up since the first time worrying and watching him be miserable. He is not comfortable anymore. Nothing has helped, I can see he's only getting worse. I'm afraid to leave him home alone, so I turned down a sub job today. I'm afraid he will die suffering, suffocating, if he's alone.

So I called the vet, could barely speak, but they knew why I was calling. I know it's time. I'm just gonna sit here with him on my lap now, except when he jumps down to go hide under the bed for a while, then I'll let him hide.

Thanks for listening and all your kind words these last few weeks.

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Linda Wayman
17 years ago
Stephanie, I'm so sorry. I know how difficult and how painful it is. Bless you for giving Spider a good, loving home and bless you for taking care of him to his last minute. You both will be in my thoughts. (((( Stephanie and Spider )))))
Linda
lydia1959
17 years ago
So sorry. This is the hardest thing to do, but it is the best for Spider. ((((((((Stephanie))))))))
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nodakgal
17 years ago
I am so sorry. It doesn't sound like he is doing good. I know it hurts badly. Spider was very lucky to have a home with you and your family. Hugs.
jannie
17 years ago
I'm so sorry. I know exactly how bad it hurts. When you realize your fur friend will never get better, you know it's okay to let him go to Rainbow Bridge. Spider had a good long life. He will soon be free and healthy again. I'm so sorry.
monica_pa Grieves
17 years ago
I'm so sorry. But, it's not right to leave him suffer.
anneliese_32
17 years ago
You are doing the right thing for Spider It is so hard to let them go over the bridge but suffering is even harder.
(((((hugs)))))
Mickey15
17 years ago
I'm so sorry for your pain Stephanie, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing for your little guy.
Hugs, I know how hard it is.
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17 years ago
(((((Stephanie and Spider and the whole family))))) It just breaks your heart to go thru this and I'm so sorry that nothing has helped. You have to cherish the good times with Spider and remember that you have given him the best life he could ever have hoped for. And now you're doing him the biggest favor, you're not going to let him suffer and you're loving him hard for as long as you can.

I am so, so sorry, I know you're going to miss him terribly. Shoot. It's hard, I know.
angela_nor_calif
17 years ago
I know what a hard decision that is to make but you are making the right decision. My heart goes out to you. ((()))
paula_pa
17 years ago
(((Stephanie)))

I know how hard it is. I'm crying for you and Spider right now.
dirt_yfingernails
17 years ago
You are a good mommy to Spider, not letting him suffer any more. Peace to Spider and hugs to you and your family.
jayokie
17 years ago
I know how hard it is even when you know
you've made the right decision. ((hugs))
linda_in_iowa
17 years ago
You are doing the best thing for Spider. I know how hard it is. I am going to have to make that decision soon with my Tikki.
janie_ga
17 years ago
Oh, sending both of you warm hugs. Janie
Eliza_ann_ca
17 years ago
So sorry...God love him,you're doing the most loving thing for him you can do right now....Hugs...Eliza Ann
grammahony
17 years ago
Hugs to you Stephanie. I know it such a hard thing to do, but it's the last loving thing you can do for Spider.
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itsmesuzq
17 years ago
Oh Stephanie. I am so sorry...you have been such a good mommy to Spider and he knows how much you love him. I will be thinking about you both today. It's hard letting him go, but his time here is up; he will be at the rainbow bridge waiting until you meet again.

Love~Susan
mrsmarv
17 years ago
(((Hugs))) to Spider and you and your family. It is the hardest thing to do, but it's the right thing to do. Bless you for taking such good care of him.
caflowerluver
17 years ago
So sorry to hear about Spider, but I think it is better doing what you are doing then letting him suffer. A similar thing happened to my sister's cat and she thought it was better that he go "naturally". I think he suffered for over a month unnecessary because of that. It is hard thing to do, I have done it with 2 dogs, but it is the right thing to do. Sending hugs to you both.
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shea
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lynn_d
17 years ago
Gentle hugs to you, Stephanie. It hurts so much when they leave us.
organic_donna
17 years ago
This is the first post I've read about your cat. I have two cats and they are my family. I can only imagine the sadness you are experiencing. You have made a difficult decision. I know that he will leave this earth in peace and love. The hard part will be left to you. I wish you the strength to help him to leave this life in peace.
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trinitytx
17 years ago
Spider was lucky to have you to love. This will be a really hard day. I am so sorry.
May you be comforted with all the wonderful memories you had together.

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ritamay91710
17 years ago
Stephanie,
I am so sorry. Thats's really all I or anyone can say to you at this awful time. I know how incredibly hard this is. Please at least know that he knows you love him. They just always do. Our furry babies are just that way.
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susanjf_gw
17 years ago
steph do what i do everytime i drive by the vet (which is very close by) i say "hi"...sounds silly but conforts me...
coral_ok
17 years ago
I'm so sorry, Stephanie! I've been through this, too, and it's just plain awful. (((((((Steph))))))))
debnfla8b
17 years ago
I'm so sorry! I know how hard it is to make this kind of decision. But truly, it is the last greatest act of love you will give your precious kitty.
I had to make this decision for my precious kitty, Baby. He passed in my arms and it just about broke my heart. But Baby is at peace and your Spider will be playing over the Rainbow bridge with other kitties and not in pain or misery anymore.

Deb
clubm
17 years ago
I'm very sorry you are going thru this but you are doing the best thing for Spider.
katclaws_mo
17 years ago
My heart goes out to you. I know I will be in the same place as you are now very soon. My 19 yr. old fur-baby kitty is going downhill. I was there the day he was born & I will be with him on his last day, unless the Good Lord takes him first. I know my other two fur-kids are at the Rainbow Bridge waiting for me someday. I will be keeping you in Special Thoughts during this difficult time. You are doing the right thing for your sweet Spider.
alisande
17 years ago
Ah, Stephanie, I know how hard this is for you. But I also know that you made the right decision. And I know you will be with each other again one day.
cynic
17 years ago
This just hits home with me too hard, for some reason. I guess I'm a bull-headed person with people, but have such a soft spot for the critters. There's a responsibility that comes with having a pet and you just took the ultimate responsibility and it's SO tough to do. I'm just all misty-eyed knowing how tough it is. They're still worth it though. And I hope you found comfort to be able to provide comfort to Spider in the last hours. Best wishes to you both.

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