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just a mom, or????

12 years ago

A friend of mine sent me her moms club newsletter, just because of this story:

Hi MOMS, I copied the following Inspirational/Motivational Story from the MOMS Club

International website. Not so long ago someone laughed when I stated on some paperwork that

my occupation was "a stay at home mom"

Not "Just a Mom" (Author Unknown)

A woman named Emily renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office was asked by

the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

"What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are you just a...? "

"Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother."

"We don't list 'mother' as an occupation... 'housewife' covers it," said the recorder


I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our

own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a

high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."

"What is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it, I do not know... The words simply popped out.

"I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard

right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with

wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have a continuing

program of research, (what mother doesn't), in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I

would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters, (the whole darned family), and

already have four credits, (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in

the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like

it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of- the-mill careers and the rewards are more

of a satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood

up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my

lab assistants - ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model, (a 6 month

old baby), in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt triumphant!

I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more

distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another mother."

Motherhood...What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the door.(Submitted by

Mara MOMS Club of MN)

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