I had'nt read about the "Just a mom". Thanks for posting it,shows how intelligent a mom needs to be and can be. Every woman knows how many job descriptions she needs to be a mom and house wife. Yeah moms!!!!! vickie

This spring I purchased an arbor and a trellis. They are both white vinyl and I am happy with how they look, I just wish the roses would mature a bit faster to cover them up a bit. The corner trellis is next to a crucifix/holder for upside down tomato grower from the infomercials:) The arbor has don juan roses on each side but they are still babies.. Maude

Hi Wendy, I came across this site and just wanted to get in touch with you because your experience sounds a lot like mine. My mom passed away about 6 weeks ago very unexpectedly. I'm 18 and the night before I was supposed to leave for college something went wrong with her heart. My dad and I did CPR on her until the ems team came. After working on her for about 45 minutes, all the way to the hospital, she kind of had a pulse. They finally kind of got a heart beat going and hooked her up to all sorts of machines. She couldn't hear me, see me, talk to me, feel me...she couldn't do anything. She had gone too long without oxygen to her brain, and the damage was irreversible. 3 days later we had to make the decision to take her off life support. My aunt and grandfather wanted to be with her and they said it took less than two minutes for her to go. I was so close with my mom and it's so hard without her. I was always her little baby. On her last day in the hospital, the nurse moved her over in her bed so I could cuddle with her one last time. I'm at college now, but the only reason I was able to come is because my boyfriend is here and he is a huge help to me. I haven't been home yet so it feels like she will just be there waiting for me when I go home this weekend. I'm so scared for everything to actually start to click in. It used to be so hard for me to be away from her. I couldn't even go to a two week camp one summer in high school without actually getting sick because of being so homesick for her. Now I have to live the whole rest of my life without her. Sometimes I feel guilty wondering why it happened the night before I was supposed to leave. I feel like I worried her because she knew how much she was going to miss me. She was the most amazing person in the world and was an incredibly mommy to me and my brother. I still can't quite grasp the concept that she isn't here anymore. It makes me so mad that I didn't get to say goodbye to her, or at least that I know she could hear. But I guess that's a good thing because I don't think she ever knew anything was going wrong while it all happened. We never saw her panicking or in pain, which was a blessing. Okay, sorry, I jut got typing and couldn't stop. I guess I haven't really told anyone all this stuff until now, and I don't even know you, but it just helps to get it out. I just wanted to write to you because I know you've gone through a good portion of the grieving process by now and I thought you might have some advice or something like that. If it was anyone else who had died, it would have been so much easier for me because I would have just gone to my mom for help. She always knew exactly what to do to help me. Just like someone said earlier on this post, I feel like no one will ever be able to love me as unconditionally as my mom did. Sorry this was so long--you don't even really need to respond..I feel a lot better now just after having written all this. Thanks for listening, Amanda

Like the new bride who kept hearing, no matter how hard she tried to cook good dinners from scratch, "Not like my Mother made it." One day she couldn't stand it any longer so she opened up some canned beans, canned hash, and baked canned biscuits. Hubby sat down and started eating and after sampling everything he declared, "That's it! Just like my Mother made it! Sue