Gardenwebs Moral Perogative... and perjorative?
Hello!
Several days ago I called a fellow poster "an idiot" and told that poster that if he read the posts more completely he could avoid "looking like an ass".
I recieved this email from GW a few minutes ago:
"PLEASE INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING LINE IN ANY RESPONSE:GardenWeb mail response mc18354051142392123ec rosa
This reminder is being sent in regards to the message entitled "RE: Would you put undercounter heat on your island if you could?" posted by you to the Kitchens forum at ths.gardenweb.com. If you have a problem with another user, please do not post to the forum about it, but rather send an email to: webmaster@gardenweb.com Please read over the description and instructions found on each forum as well as the user agreement.
http://ths.gardenweb.com/forums/trans/agree.html If you are unsure which of your postings this is in reference to, please reread this email. If it was sent in error, you may ignore it. There is no need to reply to this email. Thank you for participating in the forums and we hope you will take this reminder in the spirit in which it is given! Thanks!"
Now, it's possible by not reporting that posters comments as please-fill-in-the-blank at some previous point I was in breach of please-fill-in-another-blank in the user agreement. Frankly, I don't know. You see, I've never read the user agreement.
I repeat, I've never read *GASP* the user agreement. So I don't know exactly what rule of the user agreement I've broken. Perhaps it's the use of the word idiot? Frankly, I felt my comment was pretty tame. Barely school yard name calling. As a site by and for adults I wouldn't have expected it to be an issue.
I've taken a good look at GW over the past days because of this email, particularly in light of several OTHER emails I got because of that particular post. You see, a number of other members contacted me privately via my posted email to thank me for having said something to that poster because they didn't want to be the one to speak up. It really makes you think, doesn't it? When people are worried about speaking up to defend themselves for ANY reason and then the "guidance" of the site reinforces that fear and concern by chastising us.
I don't know if this is the type of site that GW is striving to become. Is this level of micromanaging a good idea? A bad one? I don't know. Do I want the site to be bogged down with endless name calling and etc? No. But do I want to be treated as an adult? Yes.
The post I've been called to account for died shortly after my comments with the final one being from the poster I called an idiot and which I ignored. That was almost 3 days ago? I believe. It is now on page 4 on GW. Why is this an issue, particularly now?
If there had been some immediate intervention that would at least made SOME sense. Someone might have thought that we would start a prolonged yelling session (though I'm not sure why that would have been a big issue either) so would be trying to nip it in the bud. But several days later?
I'm not a member of many online forums, and not particularly predisposed to calling people idiots either, but this is definitely the first time I've been given a warning over it.
Does this seem weird to anyone else?
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