I have been taking care of a dear friend for the past 4 years. He had a stroke which left him paralyzed on his left side, short term memory and he also has issues from the Vietnam era. The problem I have is he has an ex wife who uses his issue against him by manipulation. He has been divorced from this woman since 2001. She remarried within a year. He has a son with this woman who is now 14. I found out that he didn't have any formal visitation orders for this son and immediately had him file. I was on a schedule and he and I both had finally gotten fed up with this woman calling all the shots. She played him like a puppet. She blew up in front of his child, screaming that his father was trying to take him away from her, apparently she did this in front of her new husband too because he immediately threatened my friend that he had just screwed up what time he did have with his son. He decided that he would not be in the same room as his ex wife for mediation. I guess that was a mistake. This woman used me as a scapegoat. She made up all kinds of lies and even accused my client of being the cause of his sons stuttering. His son also made up some lies. More than likely on his mothers behalf. We use to take him on weekend trips. IE Marine World, Coastal Campouts, Marriots, State Fair, Santa Cruz. His son claimed that all we did was sleep and watch TV. As soon as we found out that these lies were spoken in the mediators office things changed. His son was given a good talking to by his father about lieing. He was also told that sometimes what you claim happend does come true. The trips were on my own free time and with my money. I told his son that he was no longer welcome in my vehicle and that no more outings were going to happen until he can tell the truth. There are so many other things that his son has done in our home, which we have punished him for, and his mother refuses to believe happens. We have documented proof of several of these incidents. He got into porn on the internet at 11. He used my screen name to do this. He showed my grandson how to find porn. My father caught him in the act. He used profanity in a 12 and under chat room and got my service cut off then denied it for 2 hours even with the documented proof from the provider sitting right in front of him. Yes, his mother refuses to believe he did this. He has been told on serveral occasions that no food is allowed in the room he sleeps in. I find it constantly stuffed under the bed. Instead of saying "I'm sorry and won't do it again", he lies and says he didn't do it. I don't think he knows how to tell the truth when confronted. A very sharp letter opener, one of a collection is missing just after he was seen playing with them. I found a steak knife hidden under the bed. I have since taken all sharp objects out of his reach when he is around. I know that this woman is so bitter and vindictive and I see it in his sons attitude. What can I do to help my friend? He's so fed up and just wants to give up. He doesn't want to not see his son. His ex was previously married with 2 children from that marriage and their father was not around at all.