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18 years ago

Well my sd got up the courage to tell her grandparents she is mad at her bm. Grandparents sent her an e-mail and sd responded. In her e-mail to them she mentioned that she is mad at bm because she has not called since April. She also made a comment to the effect of "guess mom does not want to see us this summer since it is already July and she has avoided us since spring". She also said that she is mad that this is not the first time her mom has gone months without calling.

I only know this because she called me over to the computer and asked what I thought of what she wrote.

I told her if that is how she feels then she has every right to express it and that I was proud of her for talking about her feelings. I also warned her that her grandparents will probably tell bm and that bm is probably going to call and ask her about it. Sd said she hoped that her grandparents yelled at bm for being a "bad mom" (her words-not mine). And she said when bm does call she is going to tell her how mad she is.

I just gave her a hug and told her that I am sorry she has to go through this and that we love her very much.

I can almost guarantee bm will finally call now. Just wondering what she is going to say to sd about it all. My stomach was in butterflies for my sd because I know when bm calls it will be an emotional phone call for sd. And I hate to see any of my kids upset.

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ashley1979
18 years ago
Wow! What a brave little girl! Poor thing has to act like a grown up because her mom sucks. She's lucky to have you.
colleen777
18 years ago
Hey mom, How old is your stepdaughter? That likely has been posted somewhere and I just missed it:(
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finedreams
18 years ago
wow how tough for a little girl but how brave she is!!!
mom2emall
Original Author
18 years ago
colleen,

I have 2 sd's. The one who I am referring to in this post is 13.
starr
18 years ago
What a brave girl she is! Although the situation she is in is unfortunate, you must be extremely proud that you have raised her to be mature and express herself through an incredibly emotional time.

She must be in incredible pain. Hopefully her mom hears her daughters pain. How lucky she is though to have you and DH to provide her with an environment where she can feel secure and loved.
helpwiththis
18 years ago
Has the bm called yet? Or have the grandparents responded to her e-mail? I hope it goes well for your sd.
mom2emall
Original Author
18 years ago
BM did not call. But she did send an e-mail saying that the grandparents told her about her e-mail. Her e-mail was full of bs excuses for not calling or e-mailing and she went as far as to say that if we would have let the kids fly out there she would have had them for the summer!!! BM NEVER discussed them flying out there this summer with us and we did let them fly out there last summer...so I am confussed on that excuse!!

SD saw the e-mail as a list of excuses and replied to her bm that she felt it was nothing but excuses. And she told bm that it makes her even more angry that bm is trying to treat her like a baby and think she would believe that in 2 months she had no time to call.

So now she is waiting for a reply or phone call from bm.
starr
18 years ago
Wow. I am so impressed with your SD.

I can't believe that mom didn't even call after that. She must be so embarassed that her own daughter had to call her out.
justnotmartha
18 years ago
Way to go SD! So sad that she had to go this far to get her mom's attention, but it is wonderful she was able to. I only hope it shocks mom into positive action . . . but I'm not holding my breath.

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