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Carol, DF would not be able to sell the farm without DM's consent, and so that would not happen secretly. He has only a small portion of what was the original estate from 1870, as it got divided a couple of times, but he lives on the original homestead and is listed in the Texas historical registry for continuous one family ownership for more than 100 years. My brother in Texas wants to continue the ownership, and his son will probably want to take care of it after that. I tried to call Mother yesterday, and DF answered the phone, which was a bit of a surprise. He said he was doing fine (which he isn't) and that Mother had gone to town to pick something up and had left him in the house alone (also not true). He then told me that someone had stolen his pickup and that it was probably in Mexico by now. That was pretty much the extent of our conversation, and then he told me that he would have DM call me when she got back. She did call me a few minutes later while Kevin and I were on the phone with our sister, and DM told us that she had never left the house but was merely in a different bedroom - where I guess she had gone to get away from DF. He seems to be driving her crazy, and she has very little patience for him. She told me that she threatened to leave him if he didn't stop telling her the same wild stories over and over, and so I guess he has the idea that she might leave at any moment. According to DS, someone is with him 24 hours, as he cannot be left alone for any stretch of time. I'm sure that my brother and his wife are doing everything they can to speed up his entrance to the nursing home, which is where everyone agrees that he needs to be - that is, everyone except DF. He would try to drive his pickup if my brother had not taken it away, even though he is almost completely blind. My mother gets tired of hearing him ask to be taken home and keeps trying to convince him that he is already at home. DB and his wife will be moving back into their own house in a couple of weeks, and this will make it more difficult for DM. At this point, I am just trusting my brother to make the right decisions, as I am not in a position to move back to Texas to help with the care. Speaking of sheriffs - DF threatened to call his local sheriff to have him come and pick him up and take him home unless DM takes him - he thinks he is being held hostage at times. Linda, what do you mean by "calling hospice"? I'm not sure what that is. It's nice that your son visited you from Sweden, but I think you are a long way from having to worry about death. It's very nice that you visit nursing homes yourself - I haven't been since my grandmother died. We gave our mother a big 80th birthday party and also a big 60th wedding anniversary party, and that was the last good family reunion we had, I think, except for maybe my nephew's wedding, and I can't remember when that was. I'm trying to figure out if and/or when we should plan another trip to see our family. We were there last December, less than four months ago; DF's birthday is in June, and he will be 89. Lars

I’ve just gone back and reread the entire thread. I wanted to give special thanks to everyone who took the time to write such thorough and helpful comments. I was going to name names, but really, every one of you. I wish I could express how much this has helped me and how much I have learned. I did speak to someone at the care home and she has been accepted as far as finances and physical exam from her doctor. On Monday I will find out when a room is available, I think. When I spoke to the person in charge earlier, she said she thought they would be able to move quickly. Mom is more than ready to move there. I am surprised at how quickly she came around. She used to avoid the topic completely but now asks if I have heard when she can get a room. Hooray for that. Now I don’t feel like Cruella D’Ville. The facility is a nonprofit and extremely highly rated. I could gladly live in one of their villas right now. It is probably a mile closer to me than her house. I love the idea of visiting and being able to just enjoy my time with her. We can discuss the exact same topics over and over again. Sigh. I notice that some of the for profit care facilities in my area are sold from one organization to another. Another good reason for seeking out a nonprofit. In the meantime, I will still be managing her finances and start working on clearing out her enormous house packed with stuff. I wish it were all just junk to be tossed but it’s not. That is a topic already discussed here. Elder care is becoming a huge issue in our country as we Baby Boomers get up in years. I can see a true crisis looming, especially for those without financial resources and family to look over them. Fortunately there seem to be more and more services available to see you through your senior years. For those whose children may be less than responsible, also may be good to look into this. Planning ahead is essential. Senior care facilities are being built all around here at an alarming rate. I wonder where all the qualified staff people will come from. Once again, many heartfelt thanks for your wisdom and encouragement. For those of you also dealing with caregiving, I wish you best of luck and you are certainly in my thoughts. Sushi, I never heard of the place you mentioned, but what a wonderful service. I am looking forward to getting some rest once Mom is settled. It is essential to care for yourself, too.

Antiques fluctuate wildly in price from year to year and location to location. In Florida, that style is not very popular, most people having sold their antiques before they moved. Take your pictures to several good consignment shops and see if they are interested. Bear in mind their commission. In antiques, what is popular today is not necessarily your mother’s furniture, buyers looking for primitive, chipped paint, rough pieces. As an e ample of price fluctuation, many years ago I bought two coverlets for $50 each. 1834 and the state and county woven into the corner date one precisely. Several years later similar coverlets were selling for $600-800 each. This year at an auction, similar dated coverlets were selling for $150. Fashion changes in decor as it does in cars, clothing, music, etc.