Yes...I'll try and get a picture tomorrow when I go to the house....But, we are doing cream cabinets- Our island will be stained dark walnut as will our window above our sink. I have seen a kitchen just like that and loved it...It was, to me- beautiful...which is why we chose to do it... I say- go for it and stain it....you can always go back and paint it if you don't like it...but not the other way around!!!

Have you considered a pale grayish-blue or grayish-green on your kitchen wall? I think something like that would go well with the turquoise you love, the gray in your living room, the chair, and your cabinet and trim stain. Keep in mind you don't have to pick the exact shade and saturation of a color (for example a color in the chair) to have the wall color coordinate. Matching the saturation of any of those chair colors on a wall would probably overwhelm your space. I like to get paint chips I'm considering and put them next to other paint chips (of colors in adjoining rooms that are staying) and other important elements in the rooms and sort of play with them in different light conditions to see if I like them together before even getting the paint samples. When you find one that "sticks" and you get a sample, it might help if you paint a big piece of paper, or at least wider swatches on the wall up against the cabinets so you're not seeing so much bright green in between. I think it's hard to "see" a color when it's so small and surrounded by a competing bright color. It's helped me to identify things that I love and know I want to keep and decorate around, and use those things as inspiration and to "consult" for each decision (like choosing paint). If you love the chair, that could be one thing to inspire your palette along with the gray and turquoise. It's okay that the chair doesn't have gray or turquoise... It has black (which is essentially just the most saturated gray ;) ) and it has a blue that looks like (at least on my monitor) it coordinates with turquoise. Of course you also have to make sure your choices go with what's there and not changing for awhile (such as trim, cabinets, and couches). Don't get stuck on decorating around dish towels... unless you really love them and they're one of your inspirations! Anyway, not sure if this will help at all, but I've been where you are, overwhelmed and feeling like things will never come together. Reading the advice on this forum has helped me a lot in thinking about my own space and how to pull things together. But if your gut is saying the chair just isn't right, then I'd say listen to it. That's more important than any advice you can get from people looking at pictures and giving your opinions :) Good luck!!

Without a picture - if you are mixing types of wood you might want white trim with wood stained doors and cabinets. White trim can make those transitions between wood types easier and brightens the space a bit.

will dark trim and dark cabinets be too much of the same color in one house? Depends on the house, depends on the kitchen. :-) For many of the house plans we see here on the forums, yes, dark for everything is too dark because the house itself is dark, being 2.5-6 rooms deep, with windowless kitchens. There are historical styles of architecture that use dark wood trim, to great success.