Difficult / Emotional Seller - inspection results
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Comments (31)About the used literary classics - our local used book store will take paperbacks ONLY - and give you 25% of value as credit for buying more used books from them. That is why my books went to the library, for their book sale fundraiser. About garage sales - I love GOING to them. However, as soon as I began that, I also recognized that I could never HAVE one. Others have commented on the work - but for me it is something more than that. First of all - if I am selling thing that matters to me at some level - and I finally decide I can part with it for 50 cents, it would just jerk my jaw to have someone offer 25 cents. SO, I see that I don't have what it takes to run a garage sale. When I go, as a buyer, I pay the asking price. Not everyone does that....part of the game for a lot of folks is to see how cheaply they can get an item. I understand that. I just can't "do it" and would hate to have it done to me. The other part has to do w/ the ugly stuff I have seen going on at sales - the folks who walk off w/o paying for items they are carrying. Even worse than that is when the seller is an elderly lady who has no help and who didn't price things ahead of time. Not pricing requires conversation, which slows down the process, and which distracts the seller from the rest of the activity, and which encourages theft by folks who may even justify that by complaining about being held up in a checkout line. Anyone having a sale needs to have LOTS of help. To do it on your own is to invite the lowlife behaviors. Too bad, but true. Now that I am beginning to unclutter and purge, I don't go to the sales the way I did. I still LOVE to "shop" - but at least I don't "buy" as often or as much. Back to the original thread theme - even garage sale items that I have purchased are often hard to "let go". I saw a LOT of my garage sale buying as an attempt to fill up an emotional void in my life. It may not make sense, but the changed feelings brought about by acquistion helped to block the real pain of life losses. The patch, however, IS only temporary. So now I am ripping off the temporary patches and bandages - and trying to get real about who I am, and what it is that I want around me in my living space. SPACE?? Did "I" say that? Do I even know what "space" means? Well, I am learning. Thank you for the great ideas presented here....it all helps so very much! Vicki...See MorePlease Help... home inspection report
Comments (79)akkw, so sorry this is turning out like it is, but I think you are making a wise decision. Even if this means a little chaos to start with schools etc. it probably means less chaos in the long run for your family. You don't know if you would have to move out of the other house for any period of time to fix problems and re-mediate the mold so better some chaos now than a lot more later. It will most likley just seem like some chaos of moving anyways and you'll be better off long term....See Morejuggling emotion and reason in an offer letter
Comments (40)So..... I want to update everyone especially because your comments and suggestions have been so appreciated. It touches my heart the way total strangers freely give thoughtful advice on Gardenweb. And the outcome of this story should give all house shoppers everywhere hope and maybe a few chills. We did not get Peggy's house. The why and the various problems with the deal and the communication between our crappy realtor and the listing agent do not matter. We didn't get the house. I cried. I threw tantrums. I gave my husband the silent treatment for a week. I threw my arms up and said 'ok, that's it. I guess we can't move. We've run out of time.'--- I am on a strict timeline because plants have to be dug up and moved before cold weather sets in. I was so bummed. We ditched the realtor. Then... Thursday... a house appeared on mls... on my absolute favorite street in the new city in the very best of neighborhoods... recently renovated at a very high end level with great finishes almost all of which I would have chosen myself. We called the listing agent directly and saw the house Saturday. First people to see it. Met the owner- a wonderful elderly lady who loves the home so much she was in tears about selling it. Her husband (who was a professor at the same University where my husband teaches) passed away and she has health and mobility issues and no family in this town and needs to move near her children. Gardens are glorious... need work but like Peggy's house the structure is there. Very private lot. Floorplan is a dream for how we actually live and use a house. Yard already fenced for our dogs. Truly I could not have imagined a more perfect house. We made an almost full price offer right then and there. (Because we thought the price was fair and we can afford it.) Accepted. Closing set. All of this happened I believe because we were able to meet the owner and tell her about us and assure her that we would care for the home and gardens. I know this is not the norm in real estate transactions but I really think the human dimension matters. I am still shaking. I can't believe this all happened so quickly. I am pinching myself. It doesn't feel real!...See MoreDifficult Seller?
Comments (12)IMO, the offer you made was a good 1st offer, especially since there is no parking or appliances. Since it's been on the market that long, my guess is she's going to have to sit on it or wait for someone willing to give her what she wants. Sounds to me like the market by you isn't that great. Without knowing what her agent is making on it, it's hard to know how insulted she was by the offer. I'm sure she doesn't want to pay anything out of pocket and expects to make a few $$ on it. From what is going on in this market in my area, what you offered is about right, then you get the counter; both are "happy". Since she's an investor with a few properties, if the market is slowing and she needs to get out, she "monetarily" attached. Opinion on parking: Do you have any comps for a condo like this with no parking? I agree with gardenspice that for resale no parking might cost you a sale. How far is where you would park? Is this the norm? If it's not, I would forget about it. Let her sit on it. I've asked my agent to line up other properties to see and to just keep tabs on this unit for now. That said, I *really* like the unit -- should I repeat the same bid next week? With 10K more? Should I wait till the seller comes back from vacation? Or even longer to avoid looking "desperate?" Or just not bother until she/her agent contacts me or she drops her listing price? FWIW, the current listing expires at the end of Jan 2008. If this was me, I wouldn't beg her to negotiate with me. There were about 3 properties I couldn't walk for what ever reason so I moved on. We eventually found a new house a little farther for the same amount. I can tell you that in my area there is no shortage of houses or condos. While I understand this is a business deal, the fact that she's ignoring you for this long is pretty rude. Can you imagine actually putting in an offer that she accepts, then trying to get access to it for the inspection? What if there is some sort of safety issue that she needs to fix in order to close; if she's ignoring you now, imagine how she'll be then? You will then have money in the place, she'll end up saying "as is" Do your homework. I can't tell you the amount of condo posts I've seen at the citydata forum where sellers can't even give them away. I know this is not true of all areas (look at our Pattycakes) but it seems like the condo market is cooling with buyers wanting their own house so they can do as they want. There was one post on the NJ forum where someone was complaining that their "neighbor" was blowing smoke out of their window, it was going into theirs. They couldn't wait to get out of there just for that reason. They felt they weren't able to open the windows in their own home....See Moresparksals
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