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Don't make the same mistake(s) I did thread.

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13 years ago

It's a sunny Saturday and I'm taking a break from sanding my stairs. I thought I'd take a moment to vent..uh, I mean compose a thread that we could list mistakes we've made, things we didn't think through, etc. to possibly help others not to do the same.

I've posted before how we tore the carpet off the stairs (everyone is doing it! *grin*) and I insisted on paint because I didn't want to sand the bazillion layers of lacquer off the railings and attempt to stain. Plus, the treads are pine so I was concerned about having the stains match and paint seemed easier.

Six months ago I went through the long process of painting the stairs expecting wonderful results only for the paint not to cure. Ever. I can take my nail and easily write stuff on my stairs. Turns out I was one of the lucky winners to walk away with a bad batch of SW Porch and Floor paint. They gave me my money back and after some pushing from me, extra sand paper, painters tape and a gallon of SW Armor Seal Tread Plex. I had to sign a waiver and on my way I went. I was also informed that the Porch and Floor paint is being "reformulated" because it's been problematic. Funny, the first time I called to ask about floor paint, that's what they recommended.

I figured it's time to get this over with and I'm remembering again how much time and effort I put into this project. The sanding is miserable. I'm doing it by hand this time around. Can't wait to tape off everything again. Speaking of tape, I won't be buying Frog Tape ever again. It works great as long as you get a good seal. I didn't in some areas and would rather use my blue tape and seal it with paint than mess with touch ups later.

A nice challenge this time will be to keep our three cats off the stairs. Shortly after this project, we finished our basement and started leaving the door open to help with the heat from the pellet stove (notice the paint didn't cure even with heat blazing all winter!) and they love running up and down the stairs. Even with that door closed now, it should be a fun.

Hopefully this meets my expectations this time around. I'd prefer my carpet back over this. It was in perfect condition, I just hated running the vacuum over the stairs. I don't want to add a runner and it's not in the budget right now anyhow.

My tips - I should've tried to stain first and if the results weren't good, then paint. Much easier to stain and paint than paint and stain, iykwim. So before you start ripping into that carpet, ask yourself if it's worth it and remember this story.

Any good tips?

Comments (88)

  • franksmom_2010
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I'm considering making a mistake right now. *sigh* I should probably just post a new thread about it, but is it foolish to buy fabric for theoretical chairs that I might own some day?

    Don't laugh. The dining room needs some pattern, and I found fabric I love, so...the only tiny problem is that we haven't quite found the table and chairs yet. Much less, if the imaginary chairs would even have an upholstered seat. What to do, what to do...

  • dianalo
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    My current big regret is not insisting to the gc that the contractors not nail in the new moldings until the walls are painted. He told me they always put it all together then the painting is up to the homeowner. I should have said that I am hiring them to do my project my way and to cut the moldings, but leave them the heck off the walls. It turned out we ran out of money before expected, so I am doing all the painting and those have added countless hours to my work around here. This was in half the hallway, the master bedroom and master bath, the laundry room, kitchen, and den.
    GRRRRRRR!

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  • greatgollymolly
    13 years ago
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  • whitdobe
    13 years ago
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    {{gwi:1641980}}

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  • whitdobe
    13 years ago
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    Too bad I can't edit my post.

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  • kelpmermaid
    13 years ago
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    Hmmm...maybe we could set up an exchange for all that fabric we have acquired and decided not to use. Guilty as charged. ; )

  • Oakley
    13 years ago
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    Whit, you could paint your rooms purple and they'd still be beautiful. lol. I love your house and all the pattern on the furniture!

  • nancybee_2010
    13 years ago
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    I agree with oakley about whitdobe's lovely rooms. They have such a peaceful and orderly feeling to them.

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    13 years ago
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    Buying rugs that are too small for the space.

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  • Oakley
    13 years ago
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    Jana, that reminds me....OR...buying a sofa with those high arms which makes it impossible to set a glass on the end table or get comfy to read! That's the first thing I look for when buying furniture.

  • rafor
    13 years ago
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    I used to think i just had stash of useless fabric. Then I read a quilting book and one of the first lines in it was: "go to your fabric library"! I no longer have a useless stash, I now have a fabric library :)

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    13 years ago
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  • fluffybutt
    13 years ago
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    I agree, buying furniture I haven't sat on was a mistake. I've got this lovely sleeper sofa that I bought from someone else, great price and nice and new looking, but I was more concerned with looks over comfort and the seats on that sofa are hard. Also, the color looked like a nice neutral beige but when I got it home, it looked green! I'm making it work but lessons learned!

  • beekeeperswife
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Don't leave the sunroof in the nicest car you have ever owned open, with red leather gloves on the passenger seat,which is made out of cream leather, for 3 days, and of course, it rained.

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    Oh, were we talking about design mistakes? Sorry.

  • katrina_ellen
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    If you are doing some major work and your family member is doing it and they get to a point that they have never had experiance doing, hire a professional to do that part of it. I now have a shower diverter cover that had to be cut down to fit over the faucet for the tub in my gutted bathroom remodel. It works fine, but doesn't look so hot.
    Also, buying furniture without a plan or without measuring space. I think I have finally learned my lesson but now I don't want to get rid of furniture that I spent money on even though I could find things that fit the space much better. And then theres painting....

  • stinky-gardener
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Sheesharee- "But life happens and things don't always go right. I knew my feelings would pass and I figured this thread could be good for some chuckles and some tips..."

    You're such a mature young lady, Shee! Wise beyond your years, if you can so gracefully put this disappointment into perspective, and have a sense of humor about it to boot! Good for you also, for standing your ground at SW, insisting upon a refund and compensation of supplies! Good going Shee!

  • jterrilynn
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Well that's it, I need to get tested! I have a house book where I write products, materals and paints names and the rooms they are used in. The one time I forgot to log something is causing me much grief. It's a mystery really because I mostly use colors off the Benjamin Moore paint chip of China white for porch ceilings and drop ceiling in the living room, soft beige (really more soft yellow),Albury and rasin plus a little orange from Behr with a sprinkle of others. I went to touch up some of the ceiling with China White on the front porch and was painting away before I realized it
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  • franksmom_2010
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Today's mistake: telling DH that I FINALLY found an acceptable dining room table. He replied that he didn't want or need a table in the dining room, and that no, I couldn't buy it.

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  • mom3suns
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

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  • lynninnewmexico
    13 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Although part of me feels guilty for saying it, reading about everybody's decorating mistakes makes me feel better about (all of) mine. Great thread, Shee!
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    last modified: 9 years ago

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  • franksmom_2010
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    last modified: 9 years ago

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  • amj0517
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

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  • nancybee_2010
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Franksmom-

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  • IdaClaire
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    last modified: 9 years ago

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  • franksmom_2010
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Nancybee, thank you very much! That's very sweet!

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  • rosie
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

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    Sooo many mistakes, but the best post I can make is to reiterate Jockwing's "If there's something you really really like that is of good quality and you know will last for years and years, please don't worry about saving a couple hundred bucks and just buy it. If I would have bought 10 really nice things istead of 50 not as nice things just because they were cheaper, I'd be in much better shape."

    Yes, but make it 10 nice instead of 300 cheap. Of all our purchases, the few truly enduring ones, the real keepers, are "too-expensive" indulgences I broke down and didn't walk away from. These range from a $40 6x6 painting in the 1970s to...well, let's just say a layaway paid for over 10 months for a price I've refused to tell my husband to this day.

    To this day also, when I happen to think of it, I regret turning down the kind offer of the kind owner of a fine Persian rug shop in Hollywood to let me buy one I loved for tiny payments over time. I was a 19-year-old wife who pushed my stroller by and chatted every day, and my husband said no. Hmmm! It would have been a memento of a lovely person and that special period of our life, not just a fine rug.

    Oh, then, I do have one of my own: I've mostly let a sweet but cheap (not frugal, just cheap) person with a profound disinterest in decorating over-influence most of my decorating decisions. 40 annual incomes with the same keeper later, I can say with total authority: That was false economy.

  • lisaj1354
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    1. Don't use a particular Big Box Store (that starts with the letter "L")to do any work in your home. EVER. I have spent over $3000 fixing what they broke. Even having before and after pics, including pics of their own people taking pics doesn't seem to convince them that they messed stuff up (walls, ruined, paint ruined, flooring incorrectly installed).

    2. Use anything other than wood in your front hall. I had wood floors installed and while they look lovely, the schmutz from peoples shoes, plus the dog, makes for a daily cleaning ritual I'd rather not have. Even with a custom runner, its always a mess.

    3. Have your flooring and carpet installed BEFORE you paint. Refer to item #1.

    4. Take pictures of everything. Before, during and after. If and when you sue, it will make life way easier. If you have access to a video camera, use that instead, so you can narrate it. Plus if you get your contractors on camera making a promise, its a BIG score for you if they don't follow through.

  • Saypoint zone 6 CT
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Great thread. I've made many mistakes over the years.
    When I needed drapes for 5 very tall and wide windows, I thought I would save money by making them myself. I ended up buying 30+ yards of a synthetic moire on sale at a chain fabric store, along with drapery lining, and after making up one panel, found that even with lining, the light coming through the fabric made the color brighter and kind of gaudy. The bolt is still in an upstairs closet, and I found 96" crushed voile panels online that I like very much for about $20 each.
    Lesson: keep it simple.

    A couple of years ago, I hired a local designer mainly to help me choose paint colors and advise on accessories/tweaking. In the master bedroom, I had some custom green silk drapes that I never liked that much, and she talked me into spending the money to have them interlined and a printed fabric border added, along with custom shams with the same fabric. I had already spent $2000 on the drapes, and now I spent another $1000, and I still didn't like them. I took them down, and they and the matching euro shams are in the closet in the guest room. I put up natural linen-look semi sheers from target, and I like them better.
    Lesson: keep it simple, and don't throw good money after bad.

    We weren't using our formal dining room much, and the same designer suggested moving the dining furniture into one end of our large living room, and making the old dining room into a den and the old den into a home office, which was really needed. Since I wanted to replace the old LR sofa anyway, I moved the den furniture into the living room and had a custom ($$$)sofa made for the new den. It was not a huge space, and we tried to keep the sofa scaled down. When it arrived, the fabric was gorgeous, the style just what I wanted, but the seat depth was so shallow that it was not very comfortable. I had also slipcovered the old den chairs to go with the new sofa ($$). I ended up moving the new sofa to the living room, where it was more appropriate for perching ladies than lounging TV viewers, and now none of the colors I had chosen (with help paid for by the hour) for the LR and new den would work. Plus, the newly slipcovered den chairs (on swivel rocker bases, I love them) don't work that well with the old sofa color. Fortunately, I hadn't painted yet.
    Lessons:
    Don't buy furniture without sitting on it.
    Choose paint colors after you are certain of your fabrics.
    Don't let your designer talk you into stuff you don't really need.
    Keep your major pieces fairly neutral.

    The worst was the master bath update. I had chosen tile for the walls and floor, and the tile vendor gave me a couple of names for the installation. The guy with the higher quote was very highly recommended but I went with the other guy because he said he could also do some other work I needed done. Even though I had a gut feeling I was making a mistake. He did a horrible job on the tile, broke my toilet, and disappeared. I had to buy more wall tile and pay another contractor to replace it, and I'm still stuck with a bad job on the floor. Between the cost of doing the job, redoing the job, and buying a new toilet, I could have had the better contractor do the job, and replaced the vanity and sink as well, and upgraded to a better tile.
    Lessons:
    A jack of all trades might be a master of none.
    Go with your gut.
    Ask contractors for their license numbers and CHECK IT online with your state to see if it's in effect.

    I've made more, but these are the recent highlights, LOL. I feel better having confessed them here.

  • chocolatebunny
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    My biggest decorating regrets are all from impulse purchases. And they usually happen right before I have a party and decide I want a new painting, or new drapes, or something of that nature. I have several paintings sitting in my basement that I bought because I wanted something new *right now* because we were having people over. Lesson learned: keep the receipt and the original packaging in tact as much as possible!

    On the other hand, I tend to research things to death and cannot make a decision on anything. It has taken a year to find laminate that I like for my countertop and I still cannot find anything I like.

  • amykath
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    BIGGEST mistake was putting in dark hardwood floors with two light haired dogs! I am a slave to the floor!!!!!

  • desertsteph
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    "It has taken a year to find laminate that I like for my countertop and I still cannot find anything I like."

    are you me? lol!

  • wantoretire_did
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    From Auntjen - "Never buy a sofa that resembles The Michelin Man. It will be the one thing in your house that inexplicably refuses to die a natural death (it seems to be pumped full of preservatives) and you won't be able to bring yourself to part with it because, despite being uglier than a moldy marshmallow, it still serves a purpose."

    Well, I have great news on that front :-) DH is a heavy perspirer and with this heat, finally after several years, the leather Michelin Man recliner is losing color across the top!! I couldn't be more thrilled. This fall we will shop for a new recliner with much less bulk.

  • dianalo
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    My biggest mistake is paying too much too soon and not holding back enough from contractors. I can't say that enough....
    HOLD BACK A SIGNIFICANT AMOUNT OF MONEY!!!

    We got near the end, the gc rationalized that we were almost done, and I caved. I paid more than the contract stated I needed to at that point (had not consulted it at the time) and it has been costing me ever since. We wanted to hire a lawyer but our contract does not provide for compensation of legal fees if either side is found in breech of the contract, so we have to go to small claims court in order to sue. It is time heavy, stressful and our work is not getting done until we finish the process. having had more money owed, leverage, would have made all the difference. Please learn from my HUGE mistake!

    I'd like to add that if you have a bad experience (or good), please google the contractor's business and add user reviews in as many places as you can. As consumers, if we stick together, the lousy contractors would not be able to keep doing bad deeds. If your contractor was good, then it is a nice thing for you to do to acknowledge it.

  • gr8daygw
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I have learned that OJ/grapefruit/cranberry juice with vodka makes me feel a lot better about all the myriad of mistakes I have made in my master bathroom. I never used to drink until the bathroom project....

  • dedtired
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I am lovin' this thread. Here are my mistakes: thinking a decorator knows more than I do. I spent a lot of money following the suggestions of a decorator. Now, I intensely dislike half of what she suggested. I knew I wasn't comfortable with her choices but figured her eye was better than mine. Wrong. If doesn't feel right, don't do it.

    Same thing for kitchen floor. The designer sang the praises of a porcelain tile floor. Something inside my head was saying no -- sounds cold and hard to me, but I went with it anyway. I hate that floor every day of my life.

    Presuming that contractors will do the right thing and I wouldn't have to be breathing down their necks. Another big WRONG. I found trash from my kitchen in the crawl space of my basement. I guess they thought they were hiding it inside the wall, not realizing what they shoved in there would be in plain view downstairs. I also figured they would ask me what I wanted before replacing the banister and spindles on my stair case. Wrong again. Got home to find they had installed Home Depot crap without even telling me they were starting that project.

    Check on every order and never presume the correct item was ordered. Supplier got nearly every item in the order for my bathroom wrong. I made them replace it all except I was stuck with a centerset faucet instead of the widespread I had ordered because the granite had already been drilled. I could have insisted they replace the granite vanity top, but it would have held up the project for two weeks.

    Listen to your mother! I ordered a largish bed with an upholstered headboard, and wood frame. My mom said to just get a regular headboard. I can't tell you how often I have barked my shins on the corner of that bed and every time I hear my mom's words. LOL -- although I have never admitted she was right.

    And lastly, never order sofas and chairs from a catalog without sitting on it first.

  • Happyladi
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I've wanted to update my interior doors for years. My house was built in the early 80's and had those textured brown doors. I did paint them white but still wasn't happy.

    So we bought those cheap paneled doors that Home Depot sells. They were a huge pain to put in. My paint spray gun broke so I painted all of them by hand.

    The door knobs needed to go in a different spot so my husband had to redo all the door frames where the knob latches went. And not a single door fit without planing and cutting, which we didn't discover until after all the hinge cuts were made. So the hinge cuts were done twice.

    And while I think they look better I so wish I had gotten solid doors. These are a bit cheesy and we could have had solid doors for about $1,200 more.

  • gr8daygw
    12 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Don't hire people because they are nice and you feel indebted to them. Don't go with ANY franchise company for a complete remodel of a large bath. I had no one to help with the really crucial decisions had to manage all of their subs they must hire off the street. The faucet in my new tub is on the side of the tub so that when you walk into the room and see it under the huge palladian window it is centered. Sounds reasonable except that we have interior shutters on the window and they cannot be opened now because of the freestanding faucet in front of the big window. It a clawfoot looking tub on a more modern pedestal with a telephone type of faucet rather high over the tub. So if I want to ever clean those windows I will have to take apart the faucet so that I can open the shutters. OY vey....but that is just one of the easy mistakes. The others would take an entire book...I bought faucets online they are ugly look nothing like the picture. Ditto for undermount sinks. I think things online are seconds and that is why they are cheaper, off in color etc.. They are just not the same as at a fine plumbing store. At least that has been my experience so far. I feel like such a loser, lol. These are just the mistakes I made this week...