Lead Paint and Pregnant Wife in Old House
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11 years ago
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Comments (19)I think some people were too hasty in calling you a spoiled brat and the like. I base my opinion on a few clues, rather than just the overall scenario. That your husband lashed out the way he did is entirely unreasonable. Why does he want you to stay in a place where you are mistreated by the people who consider themselves entitled to be there? Okay, so it was stressful, you were mistreated, and you were actually trying to raise your family in a place that was not your own home and was not a home to you. So, you went back home and made no complaint of him spending time with his mother, but he lashed out because he couldn't have things his way. I would have returned home long before you did. No way am I going to tolerate being mistreated by anyone, not for a minute. That one is a deal breaker all by itself. But, he became resentful. Am I understanding this right??? He became resentful that you returned home, he took your children, treated you like sh&1, and said awful things to you. Well now. Then reading further, I figure I am right on the money after you tell us he wants to uproot his family to go babysit his 50-something year old sister. Well now. Your husband is the selfish spoiled child, my dear. Not you! It is wonderful he cares so much for his mother, and it's truly nice he is considerate of his sister, but this is going way too far. If that is not bad enough, he wants to add inconvenience to your daily life. AND, if those are not bad, he wants to add continual mental torture by expecting you to permanently make your home *WITH* people who treat you badly. Boy, I wonder how he will treat you and what names he will call you when you resist that one. Will he bring down the whole house to force you to move and make sure he gets his way? But you were called the spoiled brat. Well now. Perhaps he was a good husband before all this began, but he isn't anymore. Maybe there simply weren't any trying times to test his character until now. He places his own wishes and everyone's needs before yours - even if, as in his sister's case, there is no need at all. Where is the "good husband" in that? I can surely understand him wanting to spend a lot of time with his mother before she passes away, but how does it even occur to him to uproot his family after that happens? Against your wishes, he wants to do this. Despite you being treated unkindly there, he wants to do this. How does it NOT occur to him to ask his sister to be the one to move if he is so concerned about her? I do wonder why you feel you need so much help before the birth of your baby. You are not the first woman to have a c-section. What is the help you need before the birth? I never heard of that. Nevertheless, I expect you are suffering from raging hormones. The hormones and the nervous anticipation of your baby's impending birth have you wondering if you can count on him since he spends so much time at his mother's house. I can understand that, even if you are asking too much at this point. I also expect him to understand and to be there for you. Please do not let anyone talk you out of being hurt by his treatment and his words. If you forgive him, that is up to you and wonderful if you want it to be. But, you are not wrong by any stretch. He is....See MoreNew EPA lead paint rules--options for old house exteriors?
Comments (37)While it is true that the EPA RRP Rule does not apply to homeowners working on their own home, there are still the health problems associated with lead poisoning for you and your family. There is also the problem when you go to sell your home, one of the documents you have to fill out as a seller is a lead disclosure form. I'm not a Realtor but I've been told by many Realtors that it's very difficult to sell a home that has been renovated, repaired, or painted without following the EPA RRP Rule. Another option on the covering is to lathe and stucco the house. My own house had lead paint on two sides. It also had very little insulation so we opted to place 2" foam board on the house, lathe and stucco. The lead paint is behind all of that so will only present a problem if someone decides to add a window or door!...See MoreMy 9yr old SD has hr long crying fits for her pregnant bio-mom
Comments (12)Custody and access are two seperate things. BD has always had joint custody. It's called joint conservators. He has not always had access. He had supervised access. Joint conservatorship basically means we both have exclusive rights and duties to the child. I have two exclusive rights he does not have. The right to designate residence and the right to make educational decisions. We both have the right to seek medical treatment, provide shelter, food and clothing; the right to inform the other conservator of any info concerning health, welfare and education. We both have the right to religious guidance. He has a duty I do not have and that is to provide child support payments in X amount per month. As far as access it's about 60/40 now. It's called expanded standard possession. He has set weekends and days of the week, we split spring break, christmas and thanksgiving. He has superior rights to designate his access during the summer. My access is all other times not outlined as his possession time. Sole custody is extremely hard to get. Even with all of the mess we have been through, bd has always been a joint conservator he just had limited Access for a while. If I had sole custody I would not have to tell him anything about health, school etc. He would not be able to confer with the school. Even with limited access he still had a right to speak to teachers or to get medical records. With expanded standard possession during the school year, on a month with 30 days, Bd has 12 days, I have 18 days. During the summer he averages about 40 total days and I average about 46 give or take a few during a summer break of about 88 days. That almost 50:50 during the summer. Does that make sense?...See MoreLead paint on old clapboard siding
Comments (9)Daughter has a 1753 house and had lead painted clapboards scraped and repainted. Is it smooth- nope? But the other choice was full scale lead abatement down to total bare wood everywhere at an astronomical price. New paint has been well adhered for six years. Can recommend that you embrace the imperfections that come with an old house. Replacing old clapboards are way more expensive than you may think. A tree fell on end of daughter’s house. The original clapboards were 1 1/2” thick cedar- the reason the house was not more damaged than it was. The area that had to be replaced required custom milled 1 1/2” cedar boards- $$$$....See Moremikend
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