The resulting tomato has stayed nearly the same small size for a month or two now. ***** I can't help wondering if you're seeing the green tomato ovary which is at the base of every blossom and that that blossom never did get pollenized. If the blossom is pollenized that small green ovary then starts to enlarge and is on its way to becoming a mature fruit in less than a week and you can see it enlarge with time. Carolyn

First thing you want to do is go see your physician and discuss options. Trying to buy all the over the counter meds and herbal remedies will run you ragged not to mention broke.. what works for one won't hold true for the other thousands..you really need to educate yourself and get professional advice and opinions preferably by a physician that deals specifically with menopause matters. You will not get much info from a family physician and most gyn dr.s.. There is no wonder pill or cream but there are alternatives that will help the transition. It all comes down to whether you have mild symptoms or severe as to the best treatment. With me, it escalated from mild to full blown and you sure dont want to go into that on your own. If your physician cannot answer your questions, find one who can.

I'm so sorry. Please don't beat yourself up about not being able to save him; Nobody can save a pet, or a person, with terminal kidney or heart problems. & I don't think there's any way to predict kidney or heart problems so you could prevent them, or any way to treat them without a lot of discomfort to the dog or cat. & the end result would be the same. Your guy has lived a long life with someone who adores him. "she will try to maintain his quality of life good till she see he is too much suffering and if he don't pass out by himself she will help him do it" You need to have a straightforward, hard discussion with your vet about what she thinks of as "too much suffering". For my own beloved pets, I think that any suffering beyond the occasional "normal" kind of thing is too much. Dogs & cats aren't burdened with the knowledge of mortality with which we humans are burdened. All they know is how it feels right now. If it's horrible right now, & you, the human, know it will never ever be healed, then I think you need to do some hard thinking about why you're keeping him here. I've had to make hard decisions in the past, & I finally developed a sort of rule of thumb that it's better to let them go a little too early than to wait a little too late. Again, I'm very sorry, & I wish you & your dog peace.

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and concern. Mostly, thank you so very much for your prayers----they worked!! Lumps were just cysts and dense fibrous tissue. I was so relieved, as were my husband and daughters--and, of course, my mother! Hopefully will be around for a long, long time to come! I was very sorry to hear about bitsandpieces. Someone, somewhere, sometime soon needs to find a cure for cancer. I keep giving and giving to the Cancer Foundation and to St. Jude. They need all the money they can get to fund the research needed to find a cure. Please, please support these foundations in whatever way you can. Cancer can strike anyone at any time. Melissa