No need to worry, Newdawn, that this thread will be here forever -- we all know this forum self-destuctes every few months and loses all its history pages.... And nothing here compares to the chronic oversharing i do IRL anyway.... How old are you? 43 going on 60 Are you in love? I'm trying hard to remember what that felt like... Are you married? No How many times have you been married? None. I was engaged once though. I don't know what I was thinking, either... What type of medicine do you take? Mostly hypertension, statins, BPH, and pain relievers Ever had an operation? Hernia repair, minor stuff after injuries How many children do you have? None. I hope. Do you think you could ever have an affair even though your married? I'm single, but I already have with a married woman. Her husband was a controlling, abusive jerk that constantly threatened her and smacked her around. I have no moral or ethical qualms whatsoever. What architectural style is your house? Generic 1950s cheapo duplex Looking around your house what have you collected the most? Dust If you could change your name what would you change it to? I can change my name if I want. I've polled my friends on this. First name staying put though. Favorite style of room? A wood-paneled lounge room with a wet bar, or a nice keeping room for guests with seating and tables everywhere Favorite city? London. Or the north shore of Oahu. Favorite cookie? Chocolate chip, preferably with pecans How many soft drinks do you drink in a day? And what brand? 2 or 3, Coke, Cherry Coke, or Dr Pepper. Also like Moxie which is hard to find in most places. Real sugar only please. Favorite style sofa? Love seat with recliner Are you over weight? I could stand to gain a few pounds. Short or long hair? For me, short, because it's easy to keep neat and dries quickly. But I like longer hair on women. When is the last time you were flirted with? A few months ago When is the last time you made love? Last month, but in the true sense of the phrase, two summers ago. Do you have any addictions? cheese, Ambien How many fireplaces do you have in your house? none, unfortunately How many lamps do you own? About 8. Only one nice one though. I'm a recessed-lighting guy Would there be any situation where you would kill your parents? This question was asked on a job interview, I promise. No. I had genuine reason to fear they would bump me off though when I was a teenager Have you ever smoked cigarettes? Only once. I hated it, fortunately Have you ever smoked weed? Yes. World's most overrated recreational drug. I get a better buzz from Ambien. One of your favorite singers / One of your favorite groups? I have too many to select just one. How many mirrors do you have in your house? I don't even own a full-length mirror Do you look at yourself in the mirror often? No What kind of car do you have? VW Rabbit. Awesome car. How many miles do you have on your car? about 45,000 When is the last time you went out to dinner? Last night Where did you go to dinner? Can't remember the name; it's the diner near where I work out sometimes Are you happy? Only on rare occasions Could you REALLY say you truly know yourself? Yes Do you like parties? Yes, as long as they revolve around socializing rather than alcohol Do you like to give parties? Yes, although the preperation and cleanup can be exasperating Favorite holiday? Christmas What color is your hair? Dark brown What's your favorite decorating blog? Don't read any How many sofa's do you have counting love seats and porch/deck furniture? One. That's all that will fit in my apartment! Favorite day of the week? Saturday, of course Favorite television program? Friends. A brilliant soap opera masquerading as a sitcom, its spot-on portrayal of more-than-friends, not-quite-lovers amorphous relationships resonates with me unlike anything else on TV. Did I mention it's also fall-on-the-floor, bounce-off-the-walls funny? Would you like to be rich or famous? I've gone out of my way to avoid any inkling of fame all my life. I want only enough money to live comfortably Are you rich? No What do you consider rich? Lots of close friends and interesting experiences. Not lots of money. Would you rather have a luxury car or a killer stove? The car. I already have a Gaggenau halogen cooktop, the best there is. Do you enjoy out of town company? Yes Do you like to travel? Yes, once I've arrived at my destination. The traveling itself gets tiresome. Do you still have childhood friends? A few from my teens Did you go to college? Yes What magazines do you subscribe to? Nothing anymore, I just read them online. Do you have any friends that are gay? No, but wouldn't avoid someone for that reason Would you consider yourself liberal or conserative or middle of the road? I lean leftward on social issues, rightward on economic ones Are you an introvert or extravert? Wildly extroverted, although you'd be hard pressed to know that if you've only seen me this last year Do you like to wear high heels if your a woman? I'm not a woman, and I don't think they look good on them either. And they're ridiculously uncomfortable and impractical and probably bad for your feet. Flats all the way for me. Do you like to wear belts? I prefer elastic stretch fabric around the waist. Belts are uncomfortable and unyielding. What is your dress size? I don't know, i've never worn one. They don't look good on men. Would you consider yourself a good friend? I've been told I am; I'm reluctantly starting to believe it Do you like sex? With an enthusiastic partner, immensely. With someone who begrudgingly "puts out", not at all. Do you live in a small town or large town? Fairly large When is the last time you had a alcoholic drink? Cabernet a few days ago. It's hard to sneak in a drink when all my rx meds say "don't take with alcohol" Do you think you have sex appeal? Only if I work hard at it Have you ever been arrested? Not yet. But I've been lucky. What is more romantic, candles or the light from a fireplace? The fireplace. What religion are you, if any? Not religious How many television sets do you have in your house? 3 How many books would you say you read in a year not counting magazines or newspapers? 15 Do you like your next door neighbors? Yes. They've changed often though, and I miss my old ones When people first meet you (after two hours) what do they notice besides your looks? That I'm very perceptive Favorite flower? Whatever my girl likes best. Yes, I do pay attention! Would you rather spend Thanksgiving with Barefoot Contessa or Paula Dean? Never heard of either one When you see people kissing in public (not on the cheek) do you look away? Yes, although I think it's cute and heartwarming as long as they're away from a crowded area. But excessive PDA in public areas is distasteful. One woman I knew thought couples that always see the need to hold hands or hug or smooch whenever others are around, often are making up for what they don't have when they're alone together. I think she's right. Would you be more attracted to a extremely weathy man or an incredable drop dead gorgeous man? If your a man, change the sex. Probably the drop-dead-gorgeous woman. But I like a deep, sultry voice even more than great looks. If you had your choice and money was no object, what type of house would you buy? A moderately-sized first-floor condo in the crossroads of the city Are you gay? No, it squicks me just thinking about getting it on with another man. Not that there's anything wrong with that... Can people tell what region you are from your voice? Evidently not. I've been asked if i'm Canadian. Even British. Are you a grandmother or grandfather? I'm not even a dad Do you want to have kids one day? Never. I'd would remind me of my own childhood and cause unpleasant flashbacks. I'd consider fostering a teenager to adulthood though. Who fascinates you on GW? You can only pick one. I can't remember everyone, or who's still here. On this forum, i'll go with redbazel or runninginplace, they seem to have the most in common. Also the ones already named. (I can't pick just one of anything) Pool or fireplace? Pool. I love water Would you rather go to the show or rent a movie? I love going out, but tiredness usually results in renting What profession would you really like to be in? Advertising maybe. Or music/record production Do you have any regrets? Too many to mention Do you know how to change a tire? Yes, have done it many times. How many languages do you speak? I'm working on English Has your husband or wife ever embarrassed you in front of other people? Yes or No? Not married, but my SO never has Are you honest? Yes, brutally sometimes, except to people who lie to me. (how could you answer this "no"? If you did, you'd be honest by saying that!)

I have three boys and I don't believe I was naked around them after they were 2-3. I don't remember my husband running around naked with them either. I am assuming you only have one bathroom? I've always felt in marriage and life you need to pick your battles, and quite honestly, I think everyone is making way too much out of this whole issue. I don't personally see an issue with him being against her seeing him naked, and I think she's old enough to shower by herself. Since this is an issue for DH, then I'd stop doing it. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it with your daughter telling her Daddy thinks it's wrong etc. If it's once in a blue moon that you have to shower together, then fine, but it sounds like it happens more often than that and that's why he's made an issue out of it. I'd tell your daughter that's she's a big girl now, and she can shower all by herself, you'll be in the bathroom if she needs help and leave it at that. Call me a prude, but I don't think it's necessary for kids and parents to be nude around each other. I don't think it will create a sexually stunted child to have personal modesty and be private about bathing. I also am not a huge fan of pubic showering with boys or girls. I know it was humiliating for my sons to shower after practices because they weren't as developed as the other boys their age and they felt very uncomfortable.

I’m 44 and missed 4 periods to the day. Slept horribly last night pressure between my legs was so bad I’d put a pillow between them like I did when I was pregnant. I’ve also had the round ligament pain as well lately like I did in pregnancy. Instead of the change it should be called the confusion! Before this current cycle I was having phantom periods where the symptoms would show but no period. So much of what we go through mimics pregnancy and other female related problems add that to most doctors even those who have gone through this not being much help. My current Dr. at a minimum is perimenopausal if not post, she’s at least 10 years older than me but I’ve learned more in online forums than in any Dr’s office. I started having symptoms at 39 skipping periods once a year and hot flashes until these last two years. The insomnia began, I started with longer periods they went from 6 days to sometimes 9, 11 or 14. Lots of clotting and heavy bleeding. I had started wearing depends and all black to help buy time when I would bleed through my clothing. I also have 3 fibroids that are of course getting larger because my hormones are so out of whack. I learned though that the clotting at this stage is the uterine lining shedding off in preparation for of course no periods. I’m severely anemic my iron is so low right now my Dr. wants me to have an iron transfusion. I refuse to take drugs to “regulate” my cycle when I feel like it’s only prologing what has to happen anyway which is for my body to transition into no periods. 2017 my weight went down finally and the bleeding went back to normal whatever that is now but I started having vaginal dryness making sex pretty uncomfortable without lube more often than not. My drive isn’t what it used to be either. It was always high no matter what until last year now I have to remind myself about it. Regular sex does help with my symptoms as well as crushed ice with hot flashes but I originally started on it because of my low iron but it also helps to keep my body cooler so I’m never without it. This year I’m battling my weight again gained 10 pounds in 3 months some of that is the holidays I try to check before and after and this year I was at 5 pounds but I still gained another 5 while my cycle was MIA. Hoping since my periods are stretching I am near tge end of the tunnel. I’m just greatful my kids are grown and out of the house, my mood swings are horrible and don’t mix well with moody teens.

i would like to thank this site from the bottom of my heart i am suffering from all of the above and although i have tried to explain how i have been feeling to my family it has not come out quite right. i have often resorted to saying as many woman do theres nothing wrong im fine which has made them especially my partner whom i adore feel like they themselves are the cause of my unhappiness. i was thrown into the menopause five years ago at the age of 44 due to the sudden loss of my beautifull mom then due to her death two years on my dad deceided to join her. i knew i was in the menopause but in january i hit a low that i have not been able to claw myself back from i have tried to deal with it on my own but realised last week that i was unable to ihave to as you all above had numerous symptoms hot flushes during the day night sweats aches pains dizziness complete loss of sex drive(very active before) vaginal dryness crying hugh mood swings from one minute to the next but the loss of emotion is my worst symptom. i deceided i needed to tell my family what was happening but all i could muster was moans and groans and im old old old and so very sad. so i trawled lots of sites to help me find the right words and none of them helped, then i found this site and i rang my partner and read each comment to him i spent three hours on the phone with him as this enabled me to talk to him and show him how life had become for me i then went on to explain to my daughter last night today i got out of bed feeling happy for the first time in a long time that i have now shared how im feeling and that my family are going to help in everyway they can especially my beautifull partner who is kind sensitive and has felt that he was causing my unhappiness not only have you helped me but i have introduced a friend to the site and she breathed as she read it. im now ready to do battle and will combat this awfull stage in my life. but can i say to all ladies out there do not hold it in share it with your loved ones thankyou so much xxxxx