At what age should children stop showering with parents
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Comments (5)Sheila, I have a son with autism( hes 5), and I know how you feel. I encourage you to check out some online support groups.. definitely go to the UCP website http://www.ucpa.org/ Also, you may want to check out babycenter or parentcenter.com...search the community section under bulletin boards. I am pretty sure there is one for parents of kids with CP. My best advice is to be your child's advocate and champion. Aim high for goals that you want him to accomplish, then work hard to help him reach them. If you have low expections, you will get low outcomes...but if oyu dream and aim high, well you will be amazed at what can be accomplished. I wish you the best of luck in your journey with your son, they have so many years ahead of them, and I am hopeful that they will be filled with joy. Shelly...See Moreparents of estranged adult children
Comments (70)Jan, You are a kind and compassionate woman. Thank you for caring about all of us. In laws can destroy relationships. Although my marriage was destroyed by many factors, the learning experience has enabled me to help my daughter save her marriage from her jealous mother in law. She wanted to keep getting my support and not supporting me in return, so I am now pretty much estranged from her and her sister. They model after my irresponsible, lying, abusive X. The estrangement drags me down, but I try to keep on going despite it. I can only change/improve myself and my life. They are free of to live their own lives. I have 2 grandsons who live out of state and my daughter has not denied me a relationship of sorts with them. This is not what I expected at all, as I devoted my all to raise them. I am very sorry for your heartache, but adult children seem to go their own way and they do not need us anymore. Some want us, like your daughter wants you, but sons seem to either be devoted to their Mothers, while others cling to their wives. My Mother was loved by all and she handled the son/daughter in laws by accepting invitations when invited, not asking them for anything, being respectful and nice to all and letting them live their own lives as they saw fit. I am not my Mother, nor a doormat, so I have a much tougher time with relationships because I express my views and try to protect myself from abuse; I have a few close friends and relatives, but not many. Please let us know how you are doing and if you find a way to mend the rift....See MoreFor only children & parents of only childen. (kinda long).
Comments (8)Hopefully I can give you a little bit of insight into both sides of the debaate. Untill I was 11 years old, I was an only child. Psychologists say this psychologically makes me an only child! I loved being an only child. I was very creative and friendly, I was very curious and intellectual. I loved to sing with my dad and do crafts with my mom we loved nature and the three of us took long hikes and camped alot and travelled. I am very musical, my parents were able to support me in piano, violin, brass and voice. But more than anything else they were there for me emotionally 100%! I loved being an only child! When I was 11 years old my parents had another daughter. They have often said to me and other family members that they regret having another child, not that they don't love her, it was just very hard and very different raising her. There were complications at the birth which led to my sister having a conduct disorder. She is a very self centered, manipulative and mean person. And I am not saying this because I am jealous or anyother hidden agenda, I am just stating a fact. It was so hard on my parents being in their late 30's and starting all over again and all of the trials they had to deal with, still are dealing with at age 21! Two years ago my father passed away, trust me it was not my sister I turned to for support, but my husband and friends I have had for many years. Onlies create surrogate siblings; one of my best friends is an only and two of my cousins that are close to my age I view as my family. We have the same relationships siblings have. With my family now it was a heartbreaking decision to go from one child to two, but in the end we decided to have more children, and I thank God we did our second child is sweet and loving and kind. That was my greatest fear, that we would hurt our first born by having a second child, but their mother's history has not repeated itself! My husband has 5 siblings, and his stories and relationships are amazing! His mother has 8 siblings, and you should see Christmas, what an amazing celebraton of life and heritage! When we got married I told my husband, either we have only one child or four! I think the key is having them really close together, shared history and growing through life's joys and struggles is what makes siblings gel and become interlinked! As a child I didn't know this was something I was missing, as an adult I get to experience it through my own children! Best of luck! Trust God and he will guide your family!...See MoreAging parents
Comments (76)When I was in my twenties, I thought that I had until my fifties before I would lose my parents. They would theoretically be in their 80's then. They were 30 years older than me. However, when I was 33, my mother became sick. It took 2 years to diagnose her, PSP- progressive supranuclear palsy ( Dudley Moore died from this) and another year before she died. In the interim, Dad had severe prostate cancer/surgery that left him childlike. He had previously had 2 hernias from lifting Mom after she fell. Not obese, she was just a little chubby and he was 6' 2" and average build. At 36, immediately after Mom's funeral and a year of family turmoil, I took my Dad home with me to the house we had built to accommodate both of them. Although mom never saw the house. Dad lived with me in a very nice apartment area until he died in 2016. He gave up driving when he moved in and was always at the place of assisted living care until he became full time nursing care. I loved him very much - he was a great father- and am glad I could be with him until he died at home. Our lives were entwined and although we had separate living quarters, it was negligible. I have never thought about the difficulties, because so many people I know have it so much worse. Children with great handicaps that have changed their lives, for instance. Not a breeze, both of their deaths almost crushed me. I did have the long goodbye and that helped....See MoreOlychick
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