I liked him.......but I remember John Carradine in film roles, and he was a superb character actor. It must be difficult following a legend like his father. I wonder about what goes through the minds of all the offspring of famous people when they choose the same path, because many of them are class acts in their own right, and suspect they have to prove it to people they are not sucking off their relative's glory days. As for the rush to share morbid news, why is it that people feel the desperate need to do it? I find this particularly prevalent in the elderly. I correspond with a close friend of my mother's, and love her dearly, but each letter she sends to me has gruesome recollections of sensational and heinous news stories she reads in the paper or hears on the tube. One she sent me two months ago haunts me yet. I think they are so upset by it, they need a shoulder to help bear it, but it's not healthy or fair to burden a friend or loved one. If it bothers them so much, then they should just put the paper down or turn the tube off.

Thank you all for the advice......my baby got sick from the *#@$% hartz drops.....she wasnt eating and was very lethargic....hubby had to take her to the vet as I am trapped in school all day today.....NEVER EVER use hartz products is all I have to say.....she had to have an antibiotic because the drops were apparently causing her to have cramps....anyway thank you all for all the advice....hopefully the cold weather tonight will help us get rid of the fleas.....DH had already brought the Sevin he showed it to the vet who said it was okay to use.....I too don't like to use chemicals in my yard but I had to get rid of the fleas.....I won't use them to save a plant but to save my dog I'll use every chemical if I have to....Sevin is suppossed to break down harmlessly too.....there have been many studies done on it and apparently as long as we are not near water for it to run off into we are okay.....it can kill crabs and other shellfish......hubby put in on the ground and the vet said that as soon as it is dry it is safe for my baby to go out ....I probably still won't let her play outside for a few more days though.....if that doesnt work I have hear of borax before.....don't you have to leave it though....I remember seeing white lines in my grandmothers house growing up....

I have 2 very young grandchildren, so we are trying to keep Christmas up for them. The 17 month old doesn't really understand and the 4 year old goes up to people and tells them her grandfather died. I know she misses him. She loves tractors just like he did. I plan on giving each of them a present from Grandfather, something he would have liked them to have. I am glad he got to know he had a grandson, so far the only one in that generation to carry on the name. He didn't know about the one due next June. We hadn't seen or talked to our youngest son in over 2 years, even though he lived only about 10 miles, and answering an e-mail isn't that difficult. He did get to see his father while Dave still was aware he was there. I retired 2 years ago to take care of him. He never seemed as strong after his left foot was amputated, now we know why. He was still in a wheelchair when I was diagnosed with cancer. I remember the first chemo, they botched the iv and I basically passed out. He held my hand and talked to me. I lost all feeling, but never lost the sound of his voice. He told me that he always knew when I was in the room and could relax. I then knew what he was talking about. The doctors were trying to decide if he was in a coma or not. I knew he wasn't. The doctor asked why I was so sure, when he didn't respond to anything. I told them he knew the difference between me and them. His head would slowly follow them and their voices. They started coming in quietly and not talking until they could see him, that way they could tell he was there. And the night we had to make the decision for a transplant or to let him go, his eyes opened wide and he started hyperventilating. We were all thrown out of the room. I asked to come back in and calm him down, that nothing else would. They were surprised that he responded to my touch and voice and they didn't have to medicate him because he knew me. It's the first time I have ever watched something die. After we got the news that they no longer could do a transplant we waited 4 hours trying to get hold of his brother in California. During that time there was a period when only myself and his onther brother were in the room. I know he heard me when I told him that we had lost the fight. I had always promised to be honest with his medical condition (he had been sure he was dying for 20 years) and so I told him that they would be turning off the equipment soon and not to fight. I talked to him for about 20 minutes. His brother talked to him to and I haven't had the heart to tell him, that Dave hadn't heard a word he'd said. We had our good times and many bad times, but we were truly one. I know that I am definately grieving differently than many people. I immediately got rid of most of his clothes (a nephew needed them badly). I cut my hair short and I have rearranged a lot of the house. It took me a month or so to realize that I didn't have to compromise, I could fix things up the way I wanted. I have even gotten a second Shih Tzu dog. Charlie and Dave were inseparable, and I could see that he needed a friend to help his grieving too. The puppy makes us laugh. My older son and his wife are wonderful. I have our RV parked in their driveway. They bought the house from us when we moved 44 miles away into the country. I can go stay anytime I want and I am welcome. It's nice because I don't feel I am intruding. One thing we have done is book a dream trip to Disneyland in February. I was already talking Dave into it, so I am considering it my Christmas and anniversary present. We were married December 20 - 6 months and 2 weeks after we met for the first time. The kids have already planned a big night for our anniversary because we always did something special. Dave didn't like going to fancy restaurants much (Sizzler and Red Robin count as fancy), but he always did for our anniversary. We are going to go to downtown Seattle and take the grandkids to the carousel and see the store windows. I'd better get off of here, I'm just jabbering away.

I'm glad you got it. I'm here anytime you want to talk...or need a shoulder. Hugs!