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Help me save my adopted Dens!
Comments (7)Thanks for the advice. Will try it and see what happens. Howard, all growers here in Singapore use only charcoal as potting media. Even the commercial growers. Maybe its our weather? We're sunshine all year around and the temperature never falls below 23C (73.4F). Med to high humidity all year round too. We're a typical tropical country on the equator. I've asked one of our local growers this question and his reply was that, the charcoal is only to stabilize the plant in the pot and nothing else. With regular watering and fertilizing, orchids, especially Dens bloom every few months in our climate. It almost never goes dormant. As for shading, if they have anymore sun than they do now, they'll burn for sure. In the mornings, direct sun is about one and a half feet away from my orchids and in the afternoons, about half a foot. When its cloudy, I put a high wattage reading lamp over them. It also gets very breezy where they are so I should think they're getting adequate circulation. But I've never nursed a sick orchid before so am concerned about whether what I'm doing with my healthy orchids is advisable for the sick ones? As for societies, I just joined one. But THE society seems to be dormant... lack of members?...See MoreInternet research anyone?
Comments (34)Maureen there was recently a news story about an adoptee in her late 70's or early 80's who found her birthmother who was nearly 100. And the mother was happy to meet her child, who was conceived by rape. So just because someone is elderly doesn't mean they might not want to know what became of their child. I think lots of us have fantasies of the "what if I'd have had a different family" but I think that is completely different than the reality adoptees live with of truly not knowing where they came from. Hopefully the move to open adoptions will be helpful in that regard. I think wonderful people can adopt, but I long for a world where every woman who wants to keep her child will receive the help she needs to get through whatever it is that prevents her from parenting her child..whether it's simply being too young (she won't be too young forever) or too poor (with what it costs to adopt, a woman and child could live pretty well for a while) or has an unfortunate life that limits her options (let's provide some support and help). A child belongs with her mother/family. Giving up your baby can be a permanent solution that you quickly regret, to a temporary tough situation. If you have children, then just try to imagine him/her being raised by others. It's hard to imagine until you've been there. Here is a link that might be useful: 100 year old birthmother...See MoreAdopted Shih Tzu privately, came from puppy mill
Comments (9)My four and a half month old Shih Tzu is nothing like the dogs listed here: she is a very sweet natured dog, wants to please, wants to play and I make very sure that she gets a good, running type of exercise twice a day, every day - be it throwing a small ball down the long hallway so that she can chase after it and bring it back for about 20 minutes, or a good run in the back yard on a leash, or taking her for a good brisk walk in the neighborhood if weather permits - taking that walk is very important as these dogs need the mental stimulation of seeing different things and meeting different people on a regular basis. I don't find her to be yappy at all because I didn't allow for barking from the minute we brought her home - just told her "no" firmly and she caught on right away. She isn't manipulative at all, she seems to be willing and eager to please. She is very affectionate and I'm careful not to walk around holding her. She gets held when I'm sitting down and only when I allow her into my lap - several times a day but not all the time when I sit down. I decide when she will be held and she knows not to assume that when I sit she gets held. She plays with her toys, she ever chews on anything but her toys, she eats well and sleeps well, is a calm dog and is now completely potty trained. On the potty training, the key is to keep an eye on your dog - remember these dogs are very tiny and therefore have very tiny bladders. They need to be taken out very, very frequently. She will poop about an hour and a half after her meal and if I'm not paying attention and she urinates or poops in the house, it's my fault because she goes to the slider whenever she needs to go - it's my job to see her there and take her out. I never make a big deal if she goes in the house, I don't even comment upon it. It's a rare thing when she does and it's my fault if she has, so why would I comment - her bladder and bowels are very small, I can't expect her to hold it indefinitely until I get the clue that she is sitting right at that door for a reason. I don't work, so this is not a problem - and I rarely miss her signal that she has to go outside. She is cheerful, affectionate unless I want to be mushy and hold/kiss on her for too long a period of time and then she lets me know *enough!* as she wants to play with her toys. She wants to please, is very easily pleased and is calm and easy going with a distinct and affable personality. I don't know that I have an exceptional shih tzu, as her personality is pretty much like the personalities of those I know who have one. I think good training and educcating yourself about this breed along with the helpful tips to avoid ending up with a problem dog is something to keep in mind. Everything I have ever read has stated to be careful about designing a diva from your puppy - it happens fast and easily if you allow it. You are the alpha and the dog needs to understand and accept that fact right from the start. I can't really recall ever even raising my voice towards my dog - I will say "no!" firmly and quickly remove her from the place where she is doing whatever it is I object to, and that is how I handled the barking - just said "no!" and handed her a chew toy. She is a smart dog, she got the message within just a few objections and now she very rarely ever barks. She has always gotten along perfectly with my old yellow female lab - she knows when she is bothering the old dog and will leave her alone then, she understands that in the ranking, she is on the bottom of the ladder but is top dog for affection - she is very affectionate to all around her and is completely charming to family, friends and strangers. She is a very likeable dog. She is priceless - a wonderful little companion. She understands that I am the boss, she is not, and she is fine with it because that is how it was from the day she came into this house at exactly 12 weeks of age. She is content with her ranking and content with her family and home....See MoreHelp me save my adopted Yucca tree!
Comments (2)The garage it was in the first day or so is heated but it was outside for about 24hrs. Close to freezing the whole time. Would it be helpful to remove the dead leaves at the bottom? Or let it be?...See MoreOlychick
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