The child tax credit is refundable under some circumstances. eg the IRS can send you a check. If you do your own taxes, you'll need IRS form 8812. The rules seem a bit complicated though so you might want to have a professional look at your taxes at least once. Many of the tax prep companies offer discounted services to vets. If you don't have money for that, you should check out the IRS Volunteer Income Tax Assistance Program. They have a whole section devoted to military personnel.

No, You can only deduct tuition and fees deduction or education credits for yourself, your spouse and people listed as dependents on your return. Your daughter can claim the credit or deduction even if you pay the expenses.

to answer: Son and daughter relationship is the best one she has here. They have a nice thing together, he is very giving of his time, He is patient and kind with his discipline, and doesnt treat her like a baby. When her mom is not around she loves to be with him, they always have a science project in the works. When mom is here, she sort of tattles on any thing she can, to make him look bad. He knows its just jealousy, and doesnt give it much attention most of the time. He patiently tries to get her to see how it isnt a cool thing to do. So yes, it looks like there are issues with son, but I don't think that is the problem at all. I am going to sound crazy, but I think every thing she does is in an effort to control her mom. She needs more attention from her, son has tried to make mom accept it, I have stayed out of that. And to be honest, she is so damn difficult, it is tough to judge the mom too much. When nother does give her time, much of it is spent arguing and whining and throwing fits to get things or go places. If she learns she gets to go to a fair or shopping the next day, she spends every minute trying to get everyone to give her money or something new to wear, and getting to go to every other fun place she can come up with, when the day comes for the fair, theres no way the outing measures up to all she tried to manipulate, and every one has a crappy time. They have come home with her crying over a not getting her way every single time, I swear this. It's just an awful ritual. And, tho I see areas where mom could do things different, as a potential mother in law, I strongly feel it is not my place to point them out. That whole thing is so fragile between women. She is in trouble with school for not completing homework, and at home for lying about doing it much of the school year. I have never seen any sign of friends. When she moved in here, I offered to let her invite someone over, picking them up, what ever it took, and told the mom the same, eventually they both said all her friends were away for the summer. My gut doesn't think so. The times I have seen her with a neighbor I was hoping would become a friend, she is controlling and gets mad enough to scream at her. She took this twice and we have not been able to get her here again. There are issues that explain her behavior, I am not sure of all of them, but the ones I feel are of concern, are things kids have always had to deal with. She needs more time with mom. My son has told the mom this lots of times. She makes at attempt for a while and it slips thru the cracks, a common thing in parenting. As for me talling her this, I strongly feel that the relationship between Mother and wife or gf is so fragile that I am not the one to give her alot of correction on her parenting. And I strongly believe, what ever the excuses are as to why this girl behaves this way, when she is in the real world, no one is going to give a rip as to why she is selfish, or steals, or critical and jealous. And when they refuse to be her friend she may not ever understand why. So, and please correct me here if I am wrong, but I hope that the belief the behavior is unaccceptable, and it doesn't matter why, is a workable theory. She has been given many chances to stop it all before the consiquences became unpleasant, she knows that, she never let up, it was always full steam ahead. I think she absolutely cannot stand to be given a rule even if its about a computer that doesnt belong to her, and she disobeys for the power of seeing if she can make you back down. She wants to control everything. Thats my gut feeling lol And I don't have a clue how to change it in her. Hope this answered things guys, I thank you, It's so nice to hear others ideas. And please know, I gotta being doing something wrong here, so telling me so or pointing out my own bad attitude or what ever you may see, will be taken as an effort to be helpful, I just want to fix this, if I have to see my own faults to do it, hey, no surprise lol thanks laurily Her life is she was raised by a very young single mother, who put herself thru dental assisting school and has managed to give them both a pretty descent life. She had a long term thing a year before my son met her. The girl has never mentioned this man or if she cared about him. My belief is that his absence gave her more time alone with her mom so she was great with it. The mom suffers guilt over working, and it's not warranted, her hours are no worse than any one else's, but going to daycare after school for an hour was a constant complaint, and she would tell every one she could how awful it was that her mom made her go. I belie

Ok so lets go with this ... When hubby and ex were married he was a SAHD basically only worked when kids were in school. EX was the bread winner earning well over $100,000 a year. So to hold the theory children should be at the same level they were pre-divorce... CS would be ? 4 times what it is now. Ex closed her business quit her job every 3 months so DOR couldn't catch up to her. Where do you expect her to get the money from? Ex filed personal and business bankruptcy... Anything hubby had co-signed on ... being a married couple they had joint accounts. He ended up having to pay for he is still paying for a camper the ex lived in for a year but stopped paying for because she was filing bankruptcy a personal loan they had together to help her start her business. Those 2 loans are $200+ a week... but because she filed bankruptcy she doesn't have to pay them. So here's the deal Ex left hubby with 4 children, over $50,000 in debt and no money. She left a week before they get out of school so he worked for one week. Then had no income for 10 weeks. Didn't see her children for 3 months after she left. Didn't offer him any money or any time with the children. Took her 18 months to pay any kind of support ... by then she owed over $10,000 in back support. Where's the same standard of living? If everything is equal in marriage it should be equal in divorce as well.... everything gets split 50/50. Bills kids etc.