Cash bar tacky for a 50th birthday party?
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Throwing you own 50th -- have you dont it?
Comments (15)I'll be 50 next year, and I may very well have a party. Why not? If you are worrying that people will think you are fishing for gifts, I think that it is all in HOW you do it, not WHETHER. Obviously, you do NOT include any hints or worst of all wish or registry lists. You could write "no gifts please," because although etiquette forbids it (because ANY mention of gifts is forbidden), it certainly isn't greedy or pushy. But as one poster pointed out, many people will buy gifts anyway. I wouldn't assume it's because they are thinking "Oh, yeah, right, I know I AM expected to buy a gift anyway." I think they WANT to buy you a gift. After all, it's your 50th birthday -- party or not, I bet most of your good friends would like to buy you a gift. Your guest list is the key, in my opinion. Invite people who know you well enough to know you are giving a party to celebrate, not as a fund-raiser for yourself. For my 40th birthday, I had a semi-surprise party: I knew there would be a party, and when, but my husband and friend made all the plans. (It was really fun -- a sort of a treasure hunt all around town, with the clues being questions from my favorite word game that the teams of four had to solve, then either get the artifact suggested by the answer or do the activity it named -- which sometimes required getting strangers involved, to form a square dance, for example -- which they had to prove with a Polaroid picture. Afterward was supper, comparing the results of the hunt, and giving out prizes.) They didn't put "no gifts" on the invitation, and people did bring gifts (or gave them to me another time). But I don't think it was a problem -- anyway, I hope not (how would I know? People are too polite to tell you something like that! But I have been to others' birthday parties and haven't heard anyone complain about this). Most of the guests were people who would've given me a 40th birthday gift anyway, and the gifts weren't big -- perhaps a picture frame, CD, or a book, or a donation to charity. That's pretty much what you'd spend on a hostess gift if you were invited to dinner for a non-birthday party, isn't it? The point is, I think people worry too much about this. If they want to give you a gift, they will no matter what you do. It's not terrible to give a gift -- it's fun! If I have a party next year, I probably will handle this by not mentioning "birthday" (or "anniversary" -- our 25th is the same month as my 50th birthday) on the invitation. Just "please come to a party."...See MoreA Nice 50th Birthday Gift
Comments (8)That is a nice birthday surprise! As it happens, it's my birthday today - I received a lovely emerald necklace from the family, no scratchers however. The odds here on scratchers don't seem to be very good, you might win back your initial investment but any other wins are few and far between. I may pop in to the Casino this afternoon and see if I can cash in on some birthday luck! Suzan J...See MoreJunk outfit for birthday party
Comments (3)She needs some sort of trash to treasure crown for sure..LOL..christmas ball earrings, big chunky necklace, a canvas tote bag with 'trash to treasure Queen' written on it with glitter..( she can tote some goodies home in it too) maybe a jacket of some sort with junk jewelry pinned all over it.....and I love the carol burnett idea too!..That was sooo funny!...See More50th Anniversary Party--Ideas?
Comments (18)You might let the people know that during the party a bell will ring and someone will be asked about a memory--funny, informative--(not sad) Keep it short, if they bring notes, keep them on a 3x5 card. After reading them, drop into a bowl, jar. then if this is a lunch/supper, draw one ( or more) for a silly prize. Like pen/pencil/tiny tablet, small bottle of shampoo/conditions/soap/lotion like you get at motels, Just a thought....See Moreemmhip
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