I've done more than my share of internet dating. It's possible to meet "the one" this way. So is winning the lottery and being struck by lightening! Get out, join a hiking club, take a class, do the local art walk, become involved in volunteer work, hang out at the local coffee house, go to church. Internet dating can work but it's like trying to take a shortcut to your goal that is questionable, like a fad diet. My opinion! With all respect, I've met some wonderful people online but nothing takes the place of social context and a sense of community when you date someone. It really does make a difference.

I've got to tell you. I've been widowed now for five years. I've tried E-Harmony, Yahoo Personals and Match.com. You get bottom feeders on each one. You get trollers. You get those that are still married and 'having' fun. I've finally come to the realization that I'm guess it's me, that I'm simply not interested. I don't want to deal with someone that's been married three times, five times, seperated and living alone or with room mates? That's a kicker. Okay, okay, maybe I'm hard to please. I've had the best (married for 36 and a half years) and I'm not going to settle for less. Everyone's got baggage, any one who says they don't, aren't real people or are socialpathic. laughing. If you've got a past, you've got baggage. Me? My baggage, you ask? I've got two kids with children of their own in other states. It matters to me that if I have a holiday or vacation, to go see them. If someone doesn't have conversation other then sex in the first five minutes.. or even first email or third line in a yahoo message, guess what they are looking for. I'm not, one tells me that I'm a cold fish, something is the matter with me? Guess what folks, I know what my faults are and am the first to admit them. One fella that I talked to on E-Harmony got 'odd' in the first phone conversation. I sent an email saying I didn't want to continue. Then, E-Harmony sends me a letter that he has been taken off their list and no more emails from him. Not sure what happened, but he got caught. Some of them just slip thru the net. One of the first things I want to know about someone is, are you on a twelve step program of any kind? What kind of drugs do you use. Drugs are not a part of my life and if that is someones recreation, you got it, I'm not interested. I don't want to deal with someone that has a drinking problem. No a couple of drinks to me do not constituted a problem, but if you have it for breakfast, yeah that should be a warning. If your looking for a home or a loan, again, keep on trucking. I've been told that my profile is scary in that hummmm, I 'tell it like it is'. No point in wasting your time or mine, if it's not going anywhere. No, I don't care what your personal habits are as long as they don't affect me or my life. Darn good thing I'm happy to be 'alone'. I'm only as alone as I want to be. Too many things in life are fun, people are fun, just reading a good book is fun. I'm 60 years old and pretty set in my ways, guess what, I betcha that anyone over the age of 50 is pretty much set in their ways too. I'm not gonna try to change you, and hopefully no one is going to try to change me. I yam what I yam as Popeye used to say. What you see is what you get. No hidden agenda, no time line I'm trying to beat. Mixed message, You think????? Well, one day I get up and wish like the dickens there was someone in my life, another day I get up and heave a gothic sigh of relief that I live alone and can do what and how I want. With out haveing to consider someone elses needs. If, I'm hungry I eat, if I'm not then I don't. If I want a bag of chips for dinner, that's what I have. No Mr. Coolvt, I don't think your too fussy at all. Don't settle for less then what you really want. I've come to the realization that I'm really happy and content as I am. I don't "NEED" someone to justify who I am.

What about you? Are you ready to make room for another? Or are you truely content as you are? I'm absolutely ready to make room for another. I'm absolutely NOT content as I am. I despise living alone. I suspect it's slowly driving me insane. Even Scripture says it is not good for man (or woman) to be alone. I was traumatized for about two years after my husband left me after 25 years of marriage. Then I realized he had done me the biggest favor and I thoroughly enjoyed the next three to four years. I'm over it now. I need companionship. I need connectedness. I need to be one half of a couple. I had a manfriend. (Hate the word boyfriend as I don't keep company with boys.) I guess we've broken up. Cowardly of him not to be direct about it, if that's what has happened. I'm not good at anything other than directness - like games or nuances or hints. He's really not good for me, but I've come to realize that, for me, a not-so-good relationship is better than no relationship.

Sindely ... you don't have to go to the bad neighborhood ... it sends hit men out to find you. ============= http://www.proofpoint.com/threatinsight/posts/malware-in-ad-networks-infects-visitors-and-jeopardizes-brands.php "Malvertising attacks use online advertising channels to infiltrate malware into the computers of unsuspecting users by embedding malicious code within legitimate advertisements on trusted websites. " "Without having to click on anything, visitors to the impacted websites may be stealthily infected with the CryptoWall 2.0 ransomware. Using Adobe Flash, the malvertisements silently âÂÂpull inâ malicious exploits from the FlashPack Exploit Kit. The exploits attack a vulnerability in the end-usersâ browser and install CryptoWall 2.0 on end-usersâ computers." Here's a partial list of known infested sites - (biased because it was an Aussie research group) - which have since been cleaned up. Yahoo! Finance, Fantasy and Sports (yahoo.com, Global 4, US 4), AOL (realestate.aol.com, US 37, Global 119), The Atlantic ( theatlantic.com, US 386, Global 1,206), 9GAG (9gag.com, US 528, Global 201,), match.com (US 203, Global 631), The Sydney Morning Herald (www.smh.com.au, Australia 13, Global 780), realestate.com.au (Australia 17, Global 1,656), The Age (theage.com.au, Australia 34), stuff.co.nz (New Zealand 9), societe.com (France 54, Global 1,649), Dumpert (dumpert.nl, Netherlands 24), Flirchi (flirchi.com, India 106, Global 1,129), Weatherzone Australia (weatherzone.com.au, Australia 111), Brisbane Times (brisbanebrisbanetimes.com.au, Australia 183), RSVP (rsvp.com.au, Australia 351), The Canberra Times (canberratimes.com.au, Australia 403), Time Out (US 1,145, Global 1,816), The Beacon-News (beaconnews.suntimes.com, US 1,178), Merca2.0 (merca20.com, Mexico 229), clicccar.com (Japan 1,124), iPhone for Hong Kong (iphone4hongkong.com, HK 112), Noticias Argentinas (noticiasargentinas.com, Argentina 784)