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Comments (3)kelly~ Glad you got this all figured out. And good of you to not let the guy in from off the street. You never know what kind of wacko's could "invent" a story like that. The fact that it was a legitimate appraiser is a bit of a relief (I was thinking it was a NUT case!!). I'm glad your bank is willing to let you send photos of the rear and let it be done. :O) By the way, I think your builder is a bum. After taking so long to build your (GORGEOUS, COMPLETELY GORGEOUS!!) home, and you being patient and waiting and all of that... well, I'm just irritated that he's fallen off the face of the earth. Too bad you can't recommend him now. GW is a big community, and he might have gotten more work from referrals by miss Kelly. Not likely now. Why would someone want to do that at the end of a relationship? Why not leave a happy customer..... referrals are the way of the world for most businesses. I guess he missed that fact in building 101. :o( Anyway, glad you and dh are able to fix the remaining items on the punch list. It looks soooo awesome already, it's probably okay if it takes you a bit of time to whittle down that list. :o) Merry Christmas to you and yours... in your gorgeous new home!...See MoreNot married a year, a lot of issues already
Comments (36)Wow, I just read all the posts. Thought I'd add my comments to motivatedmother. I'm also pregnant at the moment, so I totally understand the hormonal thing, the size thing, work, all of it. Difference between us is that I'm a little older and married to the most wonderful man. That said I'm sure I'm about to make someone angry but here goes...... Actually I thought Asolo's comments were not mean but helpful and to the point. It may not be something you want to hear at the moment which is another thing. This is a bad situation you're in. I'm sorry, but if you are living at home at this age, and with 3, almost 4 children, your parents are indeed supporting you. You should be grateful for that and acknowledge them for it. They don't have to do it but they do because they love you and your children. If you wanted a marriage like your parents, it was possible, but you chose the wrong person. Actions speak louder than words and you should have chosen someone who is actually in the process doing things to achieve the life you want to live, like an education, greater job responsibility, and so on. Any adult man who plays video games is a HUGE clue on his emotional and mental maturity. Adult men who are emotionally and mentally mature spend their time with their families or doing things that will otherwise benefit the family. They are committed to their family FIRST. I don't mean to say they don't have hobbies or interests of their own because of course everyone does, however, video games as an adult man's "hobby" would be alarming to me. Video games cost a lot of money and take up a lot of time, time away from family. They are a great way for adults to avoid spending time with others, isolate yourself, or to zone out of/avoid reality. I think your husband spends his money on HIS wants (vs needs) because he's immature, another HUGE problem. He is not focused on you or the baby, or the other three children you have. He's focused on himself. This would be very alarming to me. Your parents are in an awful position and I feel for them. They obviously love you and your children and want to help you. From your husband's perspective, they are great because they support him and this relieves him of responsibilty towards you and even himself. It allows him to continue to be immature. There's no incentive to change. If he really wanted to grow up, he'd take this golden opportunity to get some skills which he could evenutally use to better his life, your life and that of your children. A mature man would be looking for ways to build a better life for himself, you and your children, whatever way he could, even getting another part time job if that's all that is available. As wonderful as I'm sure your children are, I hope you will not have any more until you are capable of providing for them yourself so they will have the best chance at a better future. You owe them that. That means more than just food and shelter. Are you saving for their future education for example? Are you saving for your own home? Your parents provided a home for you, and you should provide a home for them. Even if you continue to live at home for the rest of your life, and you work and save for them, you have chosen a difficult path. You are now responsible for 4 lives in addition to your own. It doesn't sound like you will ever have much support from their fathers. You have created a difficult life for yourself, not impossible, but much more difficult than it needed to be. Whatever the past was, you have to make today the best it can be so just do it. I think what you are asking here is how you might change your husband to be the man you want him to be. Well, unfortunately that's just not possible. You can only control yourself. You have no control over him. You can suggest, ask, beg, plead, cry, explain, reason, force, threaten, manipulate, or whatever else you want but you will never be able to change him, only he can do that. That's why we must be especially careful in who we choose to marry and have children with. We can't let emotions rule our head. Teach your children this so you won't have 4 children with their husbands/wives or boyfriends/girlfriends, plus all their children looking to you to provide for them. That's a lot of people. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Words are easy to say, but actions actually require hard work and lots of effort. Don't listen to what he says, look a what he does. If they are different what he is doing is who he really is. That will tell you what kind of a person he is and what kind of life you will have. I truly wish you the best in your pregnancy and with the coming baby. I hope you will work all this out, however it ends, and that you are able to improve the situation for yourself, your children, and your parents. Yes, I include your parents in that because since you live with them which makes them part of your immediate family life. You already know everything you need to do, the answer is in your heart....See Moretomato issues already??
Comments (5)Already? Absolutely. Sadly, whenever there's a lot of moisture like we've had in April, tomato plants are prone to many issues. Various diseases can be bacterial, fungal or viral in nature and diagnosis by photo is not necessarily easy unless another person has dealt with an identical issue in the past and has experience with it. Identification by photo can be further complicated by the fact that you often have more than 1 thing going on at the same time. I am assuming your plants were once a healthier green and then all the rain fell and a few cold nights worked their way back into the forecast and everything sort of went downhill from there? It is likely the yellowing on the lower leaves is related somewhat to excessive moisture (I am not sure if you have had excessive moisture, or just average moisture, but I've had excessive rainfall and have been watching my plants closely because of it). Often, when we have really wet soil, the water itself clogs up the roots of the plants and interferes with their ability to take up nutrients from the soil. This can result in plants that are growing in a sluggish manner and have poor color. Cold nights can combine with the excessive rainfall to exacerbate the problem. If this is what is going on with your plants, it will largely self-correct and their color will improve and their growth rate will improve as the soil dries out (if it gets a chance to dry out). Regarding the spotting on the foliage, I'm not going to attempt to diagnose it because of the reasons I mentioned above, but I'll tell you what I would suspect if I saw something like that in my garden. I'd first look at the bacterial diseases common here in spring----bacterial speck and bacterial spot. I'd read the descriptions of each and compare their symptoms to what I was seeing on my plants. I'd try to find photos at a University/Extension website to compare them to what I was seeing to see if I could find a match. Then, if neither of those seemed to fit, I'd look at Grey Leaf Spot as a possibility. There are lots of other options, but those are the three that seem most common here at this time of the year.There are many websites that have photos of tomato disease symptoms, and I usually start with the one linked below. Another good one is Cornell Vegetable MD Online. In the OSU Fact Sheets, there are three different ones that deal with diseases, pests and physiological problems. I am sure you can find them by googling. While it is hard to narrow it down to a specific type of disease since often their symptoms are overlapping or similar, it is important because there are different types of treatments for different types of diseases. If your plant has a fungal problem, you need a fungicide. If it has a bacterial disease, a fungicide wouldn't help, etc. Even without a specific diagnosis, I'll tell you what I'd do. I'd remove those lower leaves with the yellowing and the spotting and would dispose of them in the trash, not in the compost pile. Then I'd spray the plants with the fungicide of my choice (I'll explain that in a second) whether I thought I was dealing with a fungal issue at this exact moment or not. I'd put down 2 to 3" or even 4" of mulch as soon as possible. Now, this is tricky if your soil is very wet. It is better to leave it unmulched so it can hurry up and dry out before it rains again. However, many diseases reside in soil and when it rains, the raindrops hit the ground and splash the disease up onto the leaves. So, you'll have to decide for yourself whether it is more important to you at this point to get the soil to dry out or to mulch to avoid soil splash. Regarding the use of a fungicide: nothing you do will help your plants more, but 9 years out of 10 I don't spray mine with a fungicide because I prefer to eat food that has not had anything sprayed on it. I'm just stubborn and pig-headed that way and often my plants pay the price for that by contracting Early Blight, which is not what I see on your plants. So far, we've been a bit too cool for EB to develop so far, but now that it is warm and sunny, EB may start hitting our plants soon. Some years I don't see it much at all (usually in the hotter, drier ones), some years it arrives in June, and some years in arrives in May. If you prefer to go the chemical route, the fungicide of choice for tomatoes is Chlorothalonil, which is found in Daconil and Ortho Disease Control, to name two. If you prefer to go the organic route, Serenade likely would be your best bet. Neem oil also has fungicidal properties. Because it is easier to prevent fungal diseases than it is to cure them once you have them, in a very rainy year, or at least in a very rainy spell in spring and summer, it probably is always a good idea to spray your plants with a fungicide. For that reason, I bought a product with chlorothalonil and sprayed my plants with it yesterday, hoping to prevent the fungal diseases from developing for as long as possible. I'll probably spray about once every 10 days from now through the end of June, which tends to be when my rainy weather ends. Most years I absolutely avoid the use of a chemical fungicide, but as I sat inside on so many days in April and watched it rain day after day, and watched it stay foggy, misty, drizzly, etc. on so many other days when it wasn't actually raining hard, I knew in my heart that I could choose (a) to start preventive treatment with Daconil or something similar or (b) to do nothing and to sit and watch Early Blight develop and quickly take over my potatoes and tomatoes in the next week or two. This year I chose (a). I have used Serenade in the past and found it fairly effective in drought years when disease pressure was low, and not nearly as effective in wet years when disease pressure was high, so I made the choice I felt was best for my garden. Spraying anything on my plants is not something I take lightly. It makes me anxious because I hate using chemicals. I look at my beautiful plants and hate the very pale whitish-grayish residue that the cholorothalonil leaves on the plants, but I'd hate Early Blight a lot more. The fungicide needs to be sprayed on the tops and bottoms of all foliage and on the stems in order to deny the fungi a place to attach to the plant. If you think you have found a diagnosis for the spotting on the leaves, you'll see that each type of disease has a different sort of treatment (if a treatment is available at all). Regardless of what it is, though, removing the diseased leaves will slow down how quickly it spreads, but just removing the leaves isn't enough as the disease is clearly present somewhere (or your plants wouldn't have it) in the air, soil, water, etc. so can continue to infect the plants. I usually keep Green Cure, Neem, Serenade and Copper on my potting shed shelves at all times because they are good products that help fight various diseases. As thrilling as it is to have rainfall, I find it a whole lot easier to grow tomatoes in drought years than in rainy years. In the drought years, it is easy to solve the big problem (lack of rainfall) with drip irrigation. In the rainy years, water on the foliage causes tons more problems, and each type of problem needs its own solution. Still, the rainfall is here this year, and my drought is over and gone, and I'm not going to give back the rainfall and fall back into drought voluntarily. I'll just do what I can to keep the plants healthy. I haven't seen any real disease issue on my tomato plant foliage, other than a tiny bit of bacterial spot about 3 weeks ago, but I found Early Blight on two leaves of one potato plant yesterday (which is why I sprayed the Ortho Disease Control on the potato and tomato plants). I hope you can figure out what is causing the leaf spotting on your plants, And, for what it is worth, I don't think it is Septoria Leaf Spot, so maybe that helps you rule out one possibility. In my garden, Septoria doesn't usually appear until June in the years it appears at all. I think the last time I had a serious case of Septoria was way back in 2008. I don't know if anything I said helps, but I hope it does. I absolutely hate to try to diagnose tomato diseases by photograph (including my own) and have found it helps if I break off a diseased leaf and bring it into the house, sticking it in a glass of water so it won't wilt, and then sit here at the computer with it beside me or while I'm looking it up in my tomato disease book. It is astonishing to me how many diseases can look similar to one another, and by the way, sometimes something we think surely must be a disease is not----it is instead a physiological issue, environmental damage or pest damage. Examine all the possibilities and rule out each possibility one by one. Dawn TAMU Tomato Problem Solver...See MoreRefi before or after yard is done?
Comments (10)Our experience has been that we have had the same lady do our appraisal several times, and she had done it in years past before we were owners of this home, so she’s seen it for a long time. Anyways, we’ve gone through several with her, and when she’s walking around looking at everything, she has commented on the landscaping changes we have made. (She’s always very complimentary and likes what we’ve done to this home... we’ve done a ton of diy interior remodeling and exterior landscaping, as well as stuff that we’ve had to hire out.) She has gotten to the point with us that now she excitedly asks “what is your next project with this house!?” since we’ve sometimes had her out because we needed to refinance for a loan, yet always after a large project (or several large projects). She has made note of even little changes we have made, such as we replaced our back door... I had forgotten about it, and she noticed it and asked and I was like “oh yeah! Yes that’s a new door and it’s not wood anymore, it’s fiberglass!” The first time we had her out I was like “well... we changed all the incandescent canned lights over to LED. Does that help?” And she noted it and told me it did make a difference. (It’s a BIG house... it’s a lot of freaking canned lights, LOL!) So I guess it depends on your reason for having an appraiser out... if you’re trying to finance an additional loan or need to sell and need your home to appraise as high as possible, then yeah, I’d try to get everything done that you can beforehand. If you need it appraised because you added square footage but you’re not wanting your tax bill to climb TOO high, then I’d just make sure the yard doesn’t look overgrown, but I’d wait on major landscaping. I could be wrong on all that, I’m not a pro... but that’s been my experience thus far with a handful of appraisals under my belt over the decades. LOL!...See Moremydreamhome
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