You need to determine what went wrong before you put different raspberries into that area. In my region, we have a nasty soil-borne fungus - a root rot -- that persists in the soil. For locally appropriate advice, I suggest you phone your county's Extension Service Office. If not them, contact a large independent garden center. Beyond that, can you post photos? If so, that might help us help you.

Bury some long stems in the ground so they can root. It is often recommended to plant a 2nd set of plants in July after the borer has finished its life cycle.

First, thank you Amy for taking the time to post your thoughts about this. I appreciate your insight and hopefully this discussion will help someone else as well. You're right, whether there was a sexual experience or not is irrelevent, it hurts just as much because of the betrayal. And you're right, I know where this would have led, deep in my heart, I know the answer is yes and I think I eluded to that in previous posts. As much as it would hurt, it would actually help me to hear that truth from him. Just like it helped with some of the other things he came clean on. What he says about that is that he's not going to admit to something that he doesn't believe himself. Personally I believe that most men, if given the right opportunity, along with a woman of no morales constantly pressuring them, would eventually give in. I hope I'm wrong, but I've worked with mostly men for years. They're just different than us. And that's why I believe women need to take the high road and do the right thing when a man is married, even if she's the one being pursued. Not saying men shouldn't be held accountable, but let's face it, they are just different creatures and that's reality. One thing I have to say that as far as intimacy goes, our love life was good when this happened, better than good in fact, and it's just as good if not better now. That's never been an issue, we both agree on that. That doesn't make sense, even to me. Seems like there must be a gap somewhere or he wouldn't have wandered. But he didn't go looking for it, it just came about with a facebook friendship, a few off the cuff remarks that led to other things. We do have other issues in our lives though that have nothing to do with infidelity or intimacy or marriage and I need to give that some thought. Are those issues affecting our marriage in some ways, as you pointed out? As for the "what if?", it's like disease that can't be cured. A part of me wishes it had gone all the way, then there would be no what if. I know that sounds bizarre and I really believe that God put a stop to it before it destroyed our marriage. My husband feels the same way. As far as him admitting it could have gone further, he has said that yes, given all the right circumstances, i.e. they end up in the same location together, they meet up for lunch, there's alcohol involved, they end up in her hotel room, he has a weak moment, etc. etc. that yes, intimacy would have occurred. But he says he never would have put himself in that situation in the first place. She did invite him to meet her on a trip and he said he declined telling her he wasn't interested in anything beyond the online relationship. He also said that initially, before this relationship got out of hand online, when they were talking she brought up getting together for lunch or dinner if she was in town and he was agreeable to that. But he said once things got out of hand, he told himself that could never happen now because he felt he could have a weak moment if she became persistent after dinner or lunch. So I don't know, I have to believe part of this. I am not stupid though, I know how men think and he is a very sexual person so ... life goes on and I can only hope things get better and better for me, and any woman or man who has to go thru this.

Thanks miketann and ken_adrian for your comments. I think both of your diagnosis are correct. Looks like I neglected to rough up the root ball. =( I planted six of them altogether and the other five are fine, so mea culpa. Sorry, plant. Its now removed, cut back, and spending time in a recovery pot. @ken, funny thing about your comment -- about enjoy looking at it all Summer. My wife said, "I didn't know how to tell you but... I really didn't like it there." She thought there was too much symmetry going on along that fence and she's probably right. First pic shows the state of it after I removed it, second pic is close up of the rootball that I failed to break up, and third pic is plant in rehab showing what I paid for it. Yikes.