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No stars visible on this old farm - did clouds moving in earlier require a cover charge?
o j
Oh Oly. You've been given good advise here and could not add much more. Your friend may appreciate your sorrow, along with hers. We are taught to be strong and stoic in difficult times. But I think *sometimes*, it's a positive thing to be honestly sad and weepy. Sometimes good friends need to cry together, for as long it takes.
It might help to have a note written out of things you do want to say, so you don't forget. Heavy emotions can poof thoughts and well wishes in the moment I've found. Your friend will love to have you share in this time.
96 years. Such a good long life. It's to be celebrated, and it will be. At the same time, so much to miss for the loved ones and those that knew her.
Sending you warm thoughts and condolences.
Thank you, all, this helps. I know it will be ok; it's just hard. One of MY favorite memories of all time is when I saw an ad on Craigslist quite a few years ago by a woman looking for help to make a raincoat for a rescued goose whose feathers had all fallen out on her back. My friend's mom is an extraordinary sewist, quilter, embroiderer, etc. Museum level stuff. She had just moved here from Boston to live close to her daughter, and wasn't yet too busy, so I mentioned the ad to her. She was ALL in! I drove her to the rescue and she took measurements and sewed the most amazing raincoat for the goose She thought it was a hoot and we couldn't stop laughing about it. I think the local paper ran a story about it, but I can't find it in the archives. I can't believe I don't have a picture of the final coat, but this was the pattern she made that she was trying on at one of the goose fittings. :)
So, I imagine we'll have a good laugh at this memory!
Thank you again, everyone. Your words have calmed me and given me some ideas for how to start the conversation, if I am the one who needs to start it.
I thought of another funny story about her. Very recently, her daughter had to euthanize her old cat. All of us are crazy cat ladies, so it was very sad to lose him. When my friend told her mom that they'd had to euthanize the cat, Mom said, "Oh, gosh, EVERYONE is being euthanized!" Then she had a little giggle at her own joke. That was when I first learned that she had a suicide plan in place, should she feel she needed it.
In answer to @salonva’s picture, that part of your brain is now being used to store 1,000 different passwords and PINs.
@Annie Deighnaugh, 99! Wow! Happy Birthday to your mother.
Annie, my cousin actually had a pool party like that. She showed me a picture of it. A bunch of her friends came over and brought kids' inflatable pools. They set up a bar in the yard and people lounged around visiting in the pools. It looked like a blast.
Thank you Fun 2B Here...I planted daffodils on her grave and they bloom for her birthday.
Outdated makes me think I might go the other direction. My mother's, her mother's, and maybe even another generation before. They're empty, but maybe it would be better if they were used?
The perception of that table scene is so real! We are expecting rain tonight and tomorrow. I hope it’s a good soaker as it’s needed. All my hostas are pipping now. I can’t believe how early it is…..Liberty is already 6-7 inches. Tonight the temperature is supposed to drop to 32 F. I am not too worried as my yard tends to be warmer than the official temperature. But, I will probably cover Liberty as it’s so tall. The only other that’s up tall is Royal Standard so I may cover that as well. Christmas Candy was overwintered in a pot. It survived and because it’s in a pot, I will bring it onto the enclosed porch.
Remodeling is slowly progressing. It took two days to deal with getting the tub out. It was sawed almost in the middle. It was a cast iron tub and was stamped 1929, made by Kohler. It took three men to take each piece out. They estimated that it weighed 500 pounds. Yikes!
Also, I trapped a little cat who’s been seen around the neighborhood. I started feeding him so I could trap him for a neuter. He’s scheduled for Wednesday morning. I intended to trap him tomorrow, but he doesn’t visit each day. When I saw him this morning, I set the trap and got him. No more baby making or fighting for him!!
debra
More than once, from more than one person, I have received hand-knit dishcloths. They are wonderful! I use them, think of the giver in love and gratitude. One person included two sewn together to be a hot pad, love it.
My young catsitter gave me a painting she did of our two cats, sitting looking at the moon, with their tailw entwined in a heart. She was 11, and the small canvas hangs happily in my kitchen by the cats’ dining area.
My son-in-law made me a cutting board.
Less so for food, I'd say, than objects. Visitors don't expect to see their cake on the mantlepiece whenever they visit.
If the sprout has been damaged or removed, then unfortunately there will be no flowers this year. Leave whatever remains intact and the bulb should be fine and with no further damage, bloom next season.
Rusty
Nicole, your post reminded me of something that happened 20 years ago that still makes me laugh to this day. Every time I asked my oldest grandson (now 23) for a kiss, he would lean in for it and at the last second he would stick out his tongue and touch my lips. When I’d pull back and looked at him with eyes wide, he laughed hysterically. Every request for a kiss turned out the same. One day I decided turnabout was fair play and reversed the game. When he came in for the kiss, I stuck my tongue out. He looked at me, opened his mouth and said, “You licked my lick!”
And then we both laughed!
Truly, truly lovely.
I love your pretty photos! Any time you want to share....! BRING it on!
Enjoying these photo's a lot. It actually reminded me of the gardens I left behind at my old house (not as grand a scale as yours!). I see the love and the care and it makes me very wistful.
In the first posting, 7th picture down, I had to do a double-take... it looked just like my arbor on a hill! I also had two walled beds on either side with beds in front too. I was going to post a pic, but seemed like bad netiquette! This thread does inspire me to make a 20 year journal of my former garden.
Gee, I'm still raking leaves and cleaning out the beds lol. Haven't even thought about planting anything yet. Guess I better get a move on!
:)
Dee
salonva, reminds me of my neighbors.
I can always tell when they are expecting, perhaps UNexpected, company. She jumps on the mower and races around the yard while he frantically weeds flower beds or throws down mulch, she then gets in the car and drives off to return with a flat or two of flowers and they both precede to hurriedly plant a small circular brick planter in their front yard - no matter how early in the season.
Yeah, I guess I'm nosy but it is funny to watch.
I don't think I would have given her back considering the lack of care. I am so sorry for you AND the dog.