What a blast! So happppppyyyyyyy for you!!!!

I don't get offended by someone using ladies, or other terms or even calling me a guy or one of the boys (has happened many times as when I started out working it was a male dominated field and still is to some extent) as long as it is not said in a derogatory manner. Everything can be made into an insult depending on how it is delivered.

As to who does what. We do things based on our likes/preferences not that any of us really like doing chores and some of those divisions falls in traditional male vs female dominated areas. I used to do all home maintenance items, but due to some illnesses my DH has stepped up and done several lately even though he really dislikes doing it and I appreciate him even more for that. I generally enjoy those tasks. Recently he completed the installation of our new water softener that I'd started, but with not feeling well never completed. I do hire out cleaning as neither of us like doing it and my tolerance for a dirty house is less than his. I just need to start cleaning up stuff we have all over more than usual, but energy is still very low. Doesn't bother DH, but it bothers me. Hoping this summer will allow me to get through it. I have set a 4 month goal.

Who notices when something is running out - Both

Who remembers what family members only eat X and who despises Y and buys accordingly - Both

Who plans meals - Me - don't want DH cooking he leaves out ingredients he doesn't like even though he likes the recipe as a whole. He does cook if need be, but prefers take-out if he has to. I don't like cooking either so it is a goal of mine to improve on this, but it is tough with work, activities, and not having the energy due to illness. DH will cook though, but only give him stuff to make where the ingredient list is to his liking ;)

Who notices and buys clothes for family members - I buy for myself and our daughter and he buys for himself

Who makes sure the credit card and property tax and insurance bills get paid and tax records are in order to do the annual calculations - Me

Who manages how household members' health care needs are taken care of (from regular physicals to dr visits for illness to figuring out who to see for a mystery symptom) - I take care of myself, DH handles his own stuff and we share our daughters needs.

Who calls or figures out who to call for household repairs - Me although I used to do most myself and we still try to avoid hiring people for things we can do ourselves.

Who is in charge of scheduling a couple/family's social life including family gatherings and holidays - DH

Who makes school and activity choices for kids - The kid with input from us

And veterinarian care choices for fur kids - Me for regular check-ups, both otherwise and both may take them depending on who is available

Who does retirement planning - Both

I quoted jojoco from 2 days ago. She nailed it!

@jojoco Same! I was telling DH about this thread and quoted Jojo too!

I had to laugh this morning -- I was driving along and saw a guy walking down the street wearing eclipse glasses. Can't be too careful, I guess!