Perhaps explore soft taupe paint colors, or if interested in whites take a look at SW Shoji White (based on tile colors hard to tell). I wouldn't paint kitchen cabinets but save up to replace countertops and backsplash and add complimentary cabinet pulls/knobs. Best to bring sample paint sheets home to see in your light and with your white trim color going on.

If you’re still planning to replace countertops and backsplash, I would do that first before final paint selection. If budget allows, include changing fireplace tile.

I agree with jackowskib--decide on your countertops and backsplash BEFORE you pick a wall color. I'm no professional, but read somewhere that when decorating, decide on materials in order from the ground up: floors (wood, tile, carpet, etc.), then surfaces (countertops, etc.), next are furnishings (cabinets, sofas, chairs, tables, etc.), then lighting fixtures (metals, painted, etc.) & window coverings (fabrics, etc.) and LAST is paint. The logic is that there are so many variations of paint colors, that when you finally get to the wall color you are more likely to pick the "right" one that compliments the various other colors in the room. When I used this method, it made it much easier to make decisions: In our sun room addition, I chose flooring and then an area rug (I used to choose the rug last--and never could find one that coordinated with the style and/or other colors in a room!); then teak table & chairs, end tables; next was upholstery on sofa and chairs (from the colors in the rug); 7 fabric roll-up window shades (brown to compliment a color in the rug and the wood furniture); and finally a very light beige (no pink tones!) paint. It's all 10 years old now, and I've had no regrets of the choices made. Good luck!

Run the countertop up the wall for a backsplash. Frees you from worrying about things matching and is less busy, which can be helpful when you are decorating.